I'm holding all my blood inside this skin

[ex-khailitha846.livejournal.com]

Greetings to all!

I have a question.

Seems that almost every multiple I know has at one time or another dealt with a self-destructive system member that cuts, or engages in activities that are similarly dangerous to the body. The multiples I know have all been involved in trauma's of some sort (the most interesting one had for a father one of Fidel Castro's ex-bodyguards - serious freakiness there, but I digress).

Since interacting with this community, I have been introduced to the phenomenon of natural multiples, which makes sense to me and, I think, addresses some of the unanswered questions about why many horribly abused kids don't develop DID but use other coping mechanisms. I don't really want this to turn into a big discussion about the natural vs. trauma thing, but I am curious...

How many systems here deal or have dealt with self-destructive members and do you think is this an experience more closely linked with trauma-involved multiples or is it a trait shared equally across the full spectrum of all multiples? +edit: Or, do you think self-harm and multiplicity have no intrinsic connection, given the number of singlets who also engage in self-harming activities.

All comments and experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Sending good vibes to all!

Jess

Comments

[aodhfionn.livejournal.com]

It's interesting... You can play victim in this all you want, but I'm not going to accept it until you present yourself as more than a vague outline.

Your journal info states that you "spent many years doing Regional Mental Health Intake and Counseling," and you offer your information as absolute fact until challenged. Even when challenged, you do not accept that you might have been in any error.

Sethrenn challenged your claim that most multiples are the result of trauma, and you countered by saying that not all multiples were. This is a distraction, not a rebuttal.

As for it being rare to have multiples without trauma. Welcome to the 20th century. I think you'll find it's rare for anyone to hit adulthood without some form of trauma.

If you really believe that most multiples result from trauma, and you really did intake counseling, then either you think most of us here are full of it, or you have somehow managed to miss the idea that a defensive reaction to questions from a traumatized person is a bad thing.

Even in a group of normal people, like this one, refusing to reveal anything at all about yourself when questioned seriously rubs my scales the wrong way. Here we are, some more than others *sheepish look*, trying to be open so that we can help other people and know we're not alone (among other reasons, I'm sure), and someone wanders along who likes offering advice but doesn't reveal a single thing about zirself.

Thanks to you and this "I shall keep myself to the shadows no matter how bright the lights get" bullshit, I'm actually going to have to make an introductory post to let people know who we are.

Yes, we. Unlike you, I'll at least state for the fact that we are multiple. Your lack of answer to that simple curiosity doesn't put me in a mind to take anything you say in a favorable light.

The last time I saw someone get defensive and play the victim the way you just did, she turned out to be a psych major writing her thesis without being honest to the people she was studying about herself, much less her purpose.

I refuse to squeak and run mazes.