smoothness of switching
Feb. 28th, 2004 11:40 amHey all,
I've been skimming this journal (and I think I've pitched my 2 cents in a few times) for a while now, and one of the things I've noticed is that it seems that the transition between people is a sharp sorta thing. I have times when my head swims and I close my eyes and when the open again someone else is fronting, but I also have smoother transitions. I'm thinking of a specific situation that has a sexual context, so I'll stick it behind a cut .
I have a "willd" person - she's dominant and flirty and totally flaunts her bisexual try anything "I can and will fuck anyone I want" attitude. The rest of us usually restrict her fronting to times when she's alone with a lover or in a totally new place - as her dominant attitude also conveys a "don't fuck with me - cuz I'll smash your world as easily as I'll rock it" impression too. However, if she's in front during sex and our lover objects to her dominance, she'll get coy and flirty and grab someone else - either one of our subs or one of our more vanilla people, depending on what she thinks the lover will like best - and tries to mimic their personality so the transition is "smooth" and looks just like it's one person "changing roles". We tell people we're a "switch" - although they don't usually realize just how true that is! : D
This isn't the only time it occurs - it just tends to be the time we seem most aware of it occurring. I was wondering if anyone else experiences these "smooth shifts" too.
I've been skimming this journal (and I think I've pitched my 2 cents in a few times) for a while now, and one of the things I've noticed is that it seems that the transition between people is a sharp sorta thing. I have times when my head swims and I close my eyes and when the open again someone else is fronting, but I also have smoother transitions. I'm thinking of a specific situation that has a sexual context, so I'll stick it behind a cut .
I have a "willd" person - she's dominant and flirty and totally flaunts her bisexual try anything "I can and will fuck anyone I want" attitude. The rest of us usually restrict her fronting to times when she's alone with a lover or in a totally new place - as her dominant attitude also conveys a "don't fuck with me - cuz I'll smash your world as easily as I'll rock it" impression too. However, if she's in front during sex and our lover objects to her dominance, she'll get coy and flirty and grab someone else - either one of our subs or one of our more vanilla people, depending on what she thinks the lover will like best - and tries to mimic their personality so the transition is "smooth" and looks just like it's one person "changing roles". We tell people we're a "switch" - although they don't usually realize just how true that is! : D
This isn't the only time it occurs - it just tends to be the time we seem most aware of it occurring. I was wondering if anyone else experiences these "smooth shifts" too.
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Date: 2004-02-28 11:27 am (UTC)the biggest problem we'll ever run into is the occasional "brain fart", where someone else had stepped up without the other of us finishing his/her thought....
that leads to a second or so of eye-blinking on our part, when we go "what the fuck was i gonna say?"... but other than that, we tend to be more 'liquid' in our switching (whatever switching we even notice)...
Juju & Co.
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Date: 2004-02-28 10:03 pm (UTC)I was the front-runner for a little while when we were very little, like up to age seven, and then became it again our freshman year in high school. While I remember the facts of everything when I wasn't dominant, I don't remember anything at all about how we felt or why we did things. Nothing at all. So that's a memory thing too, but of a different sort.
But in general, changes among us are very smooth, we co-front most of the time, and a lot of the time they're unnoticed. However, we do have somewhat different voices (Sláva's voice is a little higher than the consciousness's, and mine is a little lower, and a little raspy -- people have noticed this). We can always tell in the mirror or in pictures who's out, but it's doubtful anyone else could.
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Date: 2004-02-28 11:36 am (UTC)~Rhydan
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Date: 2004-02-28 12:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-28 04:55 pm (UTC)Duathir does most of the co-piloting, because that's what he is most comfortable with, while Crist-Erui and I take turns at the helm. Sex is another matter, though - in that situation it's me and Crist-Erui sharing corporeality, and things can get pretty fluid between us. He's generally a bit more submissive than me, but neither of us are specifically one way or the other.
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Date: 2004-02-29 05:20 am (UTC)Heh
Date: 2004-03-01 12:26 pm (UTC)Sometimes its fun, other times, let's just say a job with a strict anti-drug policy is a bad place to completely space out and try to catch up with ourselves.
--Me