September Plans

[susanacts.livejournal.com]

I see my MD August 1, and then, in September, I'll start therapy. I'm nervous, since I've been let down by mental health professionals before. My current situation bringing me to therapy has been met with disbelief and skepticism, and now, I have found ways to dodge the creep in question. My cell is now off, probably forever. Due to going numb, family doesn't want to cope here, so I had to do my own thing. The creep loves to call me. All the time...

If this new shrink doesn't want to help me deal with him, then I'll leave the office, no questions asked. Granted, she'll never know I'm multiple, but this guy is gonna see the Pit before too long. He's now forcing me to eliminate my cell phone due to his stupid phone calls. He's 20 years older than me. And he wants my friendship.

Just like he wanted to "get some" and succeeded, in my living room, with no one to help. Since the night of the attack, he's been e-mailing and calling, since my previous shrink failed to help. If this new one can't, then screw it. I think I'll just go down to the local station and file a harassment report or something.

Everyone wants to blame me for his actions. They want me to pay for what he did. They want me to ignore his calls. Screw them. I am paying, by giving up my phone. He could be calling the house directly, or showing up, so yeah, this thing can get worse.

If I die at the hands of this man, it'll leave family and friends speechless. The disbelief has got to go. I was hurt. And like all girls in my situation, we think we can trust the guy. Not so much.

He calls so often that my caller ID and such on the cell start flashing with his number. I'm officially done trying to convince shrinks, family, and friends that this guy is a danger to me. September is going to be a hell of a month. Between the shrink and me seeing friends, I don't know how to proceed, or who the hell I can turn to.

We moved out of one city and into another, and he's still around. Moving didn't stop him, and I doubt that anything will. He's sicker than I am.

Anyway, I just felt like posting because the most recent call I got came Saturday July 21st. I know how to avoid having his calls show up on the bill. That's easy. Stopping him from calling is a whole different ballgame.

I have no idea what to expect now. Maybe this new therapist will surprise me. But regardless, if things go amok, I'll walk out. I don't have time to waste. Either this guy gets taken care of, or I find a whole new way to get rid of him on my own. If that plan means going to the authorities, fine. At least I can file phone harassment charges.

He'll never see time for the crime he committed because the last shrink I saw failed to report him. She covered for him. And I paid her to help me. She took my money, time, trust, and defended him. It's her fault these calls and e-mails are escalating.

If I could get her decked with charges, I would, but it would just be a waste. She's not worth time anyway.

Honestly, if I end up getting a new phone and changing the number, this may be the biggest step I've taken in two and a half years, since all this started. If friends and family disagree with the new phone, too bad. See the thing is, I don't pay the land line bill or the cell bill, which makes this tricky.

I'm guessing that since family is quick to tell me to ignore him, and friends pass this whole thing off as "a bad sex experience", I don't really have the support I need. Who knows? Having a physical impairment along with multiples, I am unique. It all makes me unique.

But I am not allowed to disclose the two diagnosis for the therapist's sake. She might get "scared" and refuse to treat me. This whole situation is a load of crap. This guy has a long history with me, starting in my college years. If people think this is minor, and they won't help, they are the ones with the problem.

I'll be busy till October, but I hope to keep posting off and on. I hope you enjoy the rest of your summer. I'm really trying hard to have fun. But knowing I can't even turn my phone on while out is starting to get on my nerves. My Posse senses this and they are pissed off. The external world is treating me like this is nothing, while The Posse feels threatened. Can you blame us?

Have a good summer...God knows I'm going to try and do the same.

Comments

[krystale.livejournal.com]

I think you need to go to the cops before your statute of limitations runs out. No one needs this kind of toxicity in their life. And if he's aware of the statute thing as soon as it runs out he may be after you again.

[kyanve.livejournal.com]

Seconding Krystale's...keep the cellphone missed-call log and whatnot handy so you can show that much fast, and anything else where you can get a record of things, and go to the -cops- instead of the therapist b/c they're the kind of help you'd need.

[nancy-nensi.livejournal.com]

You may be able to have calls from his phone number automatically blocked by the cell phone company. Call the cell company and ask if they can do that, then get the person who pays the bill to ask for that service if it's offered.

Also, I agree with Krystale and Kyanve that you need to go ahead and get the restraining order. If you've asked the man to leave you alone and he's not doing that, there's nothing a therapist can do for you to stop him. You have to get help from the police. The therapist will be dealing with YOU, to help you with your issues, and will not be working with the guy you're trying to get rid of, so she can't make him go away. A restraining order might work for getting rid of the guy.

You might also try checking with your posse, to make sure there is not anyone in your group that's encouraging this guy without your knowledge. If someone else is encouraging him while you discourage him, he could be getting mixed messages.

-Nancy

[fogsystem.livejournal.com]

I read a book or two on a mental illness that your situation seems to reflect. I can't remember the name, but basically the person believes that their victim is completely and utterly in love with them and will then procede to stalk them relentlessly, and cannot be coinvinced that their actions are wrong. Very nasty, and most people never get rid of these stalkers. The best you can do is file charges, avoid all contact, and hope he finds a new victim (as cruel as that may sound).

Not that I'm an expert, I just read a few interesting books while in the psychology section of my local library :\

Good luck with your shrink. You have my dearest sympathies.

~Alana