Question

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Okay, hope this doesn't sound too weird. My mindmate and I would like to formalize our relationship in some way, and I've asked her to handfast me. (Is that even a verb?) I know that some of you have in-system marriages. Did you manage to come up with a ritual that involved people outside the system? We have some singlet friends, and we'd like to involve them in some way, but I can't come up with anything good. Of course I'm even feeling weird about telling them, but I think that's just me. I've been "underground" so to speak for so long that it's still weird for me to even interact with others. Much less trying to explain how an in-system relationship would work.

Sorry if I've started to babble. This whole thing is making me nervous.

Comments

Congratulations !!

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sologamy
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1264/is_n2_v28/ai_19439438

Maybe you could take some ideas from this. The last time someone on this community wanted to have a marriage ceremony in-house, this or something roughly similar were what was suggested.

Re: Congratulations !!

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Thanks! Should have known that there was something appropriate on Wikipedia, if we'd just known where to look. That helps a lot. Especially since one of the singlet friends is becoming very active in Africa. He's the one we felt most weird about telling. We can use the concept of sologamy in Africa as an easier way to relate it to something more in his experience.