Others Disappearing Without Saying Goodbye

[lgrau.livejournal.com]

Hey. I'm posting this for someone who feels strange being around communities like this; hope that's not a problem.

She's had two others - one who was around for thirteen years, one for almost seven. Suddenly, they both disappeared without either of them telling her. The only major change in her lifestyle was getting a boyfriend, and even then they hung around for three months into the relationship. After that, they were just... poof. Gone.

She's seen one of them two times, but only to scold her; the other one she hasn't seen since. She's looking for suggestions to get them to talk to her, or anything along those lines.

(I also directed her to the memories, but I figure that new people in the community bring about new thoughts on the subject. Sorry for the repetition, as this general subject HAS been posted about a few times already.)

Comments

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

first, I'd do some introspection. I went through that, accompanied by this feeling of "so I MUST have been crazy." I realized a long time later, I'd built a wall. subconsciously, but regardless, I had. Thankfully my packmates have forgiven me for locking them away, but the point is, do some serious introspection, she may have built a wall without realizing it.

Sometimes, in our experience, a change can make you 'forget' that others are there. in forgetting, the wall gets built. it separates y'all.

(we're not in a wonderful frame of mind atm, but if you/she needs clarification, or wanna go along this train of thought further, give us a holler...there's loads of contact info on my lj user info page).

Rick
Pack Collective

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

The only question I can think of right now is: What was the boyfriend's attitude toward her plurality?

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

Maybe they don't approve of the relationship?

[redrainstorm.livejournal.com]

At one time I lost contact with everyone - but they went to another part of 'the inside' because of internal and external problems... How long have they been gone? And maybe when she sees the one that scolds her she can ask him/her what's going on?

[kimandgary.livejournal.com]

When Gary keeps secrets from me, I can't feel him as strongly. That is one possibility. Another might be that as Ricktboy said, she might be blocking them subconsciously, maybe cause she does't want to hear their disaproval. I know that when I am worried about what Gary is going to say, I find it hard to hear him. Also, one time I blacked out, in our spiritual house, and Gary had to take over for me for a couple of years, cause I kept going unconscious in all senses of the word. I mean I wasn't going somewhere else, I just wasn't aware anywhere. I guess if that had happened to him, and I hadn't noticed... well maybe she should search around. Maybe they have passed out.