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multiplicity_archivesYou may guess that this is pretty obviously a sockpuppet journal. I'm not really out about being multi at all, except with a few people, and didn't really want to join with my journal or with somebody else's journal. I've read here before, once in a while, but never really followed it.
I just kind of really need some advice, and this seemed as good a place as any to get it.
The "original" or the "main fronter" or whatever has never been a sterling example of How To Be A Well Adjusted Human and she's been getting worse the last couple of months and last night everything kind of went to hell and -- well, nothing's broken but meltdowns at work just aren't feasible and she agreed that maybe being front isn't working for her right now. She's gone for now, in the inner world or the astral or, I dunno, whatever it is you go to.
And I've been covering for her a lot at work and stuff, and I like her roommates and her friends, and I'm more stable than most of the people in here, so I sort of got nominated to be the new front-guy-whatever. It's weird because suddenly I've got access to a lot of things I didn't (or maybe I just didn't care about before) like almost all the memories and stuff like that.
I spent most of today (aside from, you know, thanksgiving dinner) getting comfortable, cleaning up, and redecorating the bedroom a bit. Tomorrow I'll go to work, but I've been doing a lot of that anyway. I'm just... there's a lot of little things I'm wondering about. I mean, the people we're out to call me by my first name... would it be presumptive of me to use it as a "nickname" with new people we meet? I like my name, but it's not really anything like the body's. Is it rude of me to clean out some of the crap she's got? I wouldn't get rid of, like, journals or letters or stuff, but there's a lot of books and legos and little toys and stuff we don't have room for. I'm thinking about moving her altar stuff into the closet because my religious leanings aren't really in the same zip code as hers either.
Basically, I guess, I'm wondering what the easiest way to make this body and this life feel like "mine" is, and whether I even should. And yeah, I know a big answer to that is going to be "It's up to you" but pretend I know that and answer anyway? Thanks. General advice, thoughts and suggestions from people who've been in similar situations would also be appreciated.
I just kind of really need some advice, and this seemed as good a place as any to get it.
The "original" or the "main fronter" or whatever has never been a sterling example of How To Be A Well Adjusted Human and she's been getting worse the last couple of months and last night everything kind of went to hell and -- well, nothing's broken but meltdowns at work just aren't feasible and she agreed that maybe being front isn't working for her right now. She's gone for now, in the inner world or the astral or, I dunno, whatever it is you go to.
And I've been covering for her a lot at work and stuff, and I like her roommates and her friends, and I'm more stable than most of the people in here, so I sort of got nominated to be the new front-guy-whatever. It's weird because suddenly I've got access to a lot of things I didn't (or maybe I just didn't care about before) like almost all the memories and stuff like that.
I spent most of today (aside from, you know, thanksgiving dinner) getting comfortable, cleaning up, and redecorating the bedroom a bit. Tomorrow I'll go to work, but I've been doing a lot of that anyway. I'm just... there's a lot of little things I'm wondering about. I mean, the people we're out to call me by my first name... would it be presumptive of me to use it as a "nickname" with new people we meet? I like my name, but it's not really anything like the body's. Is it rude of me to clean out some of the crap she's got? I wouldn't get rid of, like, journals or letters or stuff, but there's a lot of books and legos and little toys and stuff we don't have room for. I'm thinking about moving her altar stuff into the closet because my religious leanings aren't really in the same zip code as hers either.
Basically, I guess, I'm wondering what the easiest way to make this body and this life feel like "mine" is, and whether I even should. And yeah, I know a big answer to that is going to be "It's up to you" but pretend I know that and answer anyway? Thanks. General advice, thoughts and suggestions from people who've been in similar situations would also be appreciated.
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Couple of suggestions
Date: 2006-11-24 04:07 am (UTC)Religious stuff is a double caution on that. It would be best to store stuff in a box and be extra considerate about it. Also keep in mind that a sudden change of religion is one of those things that people tend to notice, so it may behoove you to keep up pretenses for a little while.
2. Nicknames are great and all, but without being out about being multiple (and I hear you on that - I'm about as out as you are) you'd be better off getting used to a new name. You might be better served with a haircut / new clothes - these are changes that people can accept and yet go a long way to reassuring one's identity.
3. I'd say that you should feel comfortable making changes to your life to accomodate your preferences, as long as you don't do anything irreversable. A tatoo, for instance, is really the kind of thing you should discuss with your head-mates. On the other hand, putting up a poster of your favorite band probably isn't.