Question & Comment

[waterbaby319.livejournal.com]

First, I sent my alters to a safe place before a hospitalization which was traumatic and I can't get them back. I am so lonely. I mean I know they are operating for me, or at least some are, but they won't talk with me any more.
Second, my younger sister found medical confirmation that she was sexually abused as young as age eleven since she has medical records showing treatment for a sexually transmitted disease. This new information has helped me to accept my memories which I have tried so hard to deny.
Back to First. Anyone have any idea how I can get back in communication with my alters? I have a ball with their names.
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Thanks.
p.s. I am in the pink wedding dress.

Comments

[browncoatrebel.livejournal.com]

Something similar has happened to us on occasions. After a trauma--or what others inside would consider a trauma--communication tends to break down for us. I've found it's just a matter of time and reassurance, especially for the little ones and anyone who's carried trauma. For me, writing to them helps.

I've also learned not to shut anyone in our out without a group conference so everyone understands why. That way it doesn't feel traumatic for them.

It's hard to accept the memories. I go through periods of major denial frequently.

Sara

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

We periodically lose touch with one another. It happens to a good many groups for one or another reason, some of whom fear they've accidentally integrated or that some other catastrophe has occured.

As child_recalled says, one of the best things is to surround yourself with the things they love. Find moments when you can be quiet and send them messages in your mind. Call them by name and say "I miss you. Please come back and talk to me." Remind them that it's safe now, you're out of the hospital.

[kasiawhisper.livejournal.com]

we've had times when the body will lose contact with us.. meaning that no matter who it is that is fronting, they aren't able to hear anyone else.. unless there is someone co-ing or behind-co-ing, or whatever you want to call it.. we've found that meditating can keep that from happening.. because usually it's from too much stress being put on the body or from too many mixed energies from us when we shift and then not clearing it away.. sort of like wiping a chalkboard clean after each use! :)