Relationships, SO's, and Sexuality

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This is a topic that has caused me some stress in the past, so I figured I'd ask about it here...

Have (m)any of you had to deal with conflicting relationship/sexual needs of your insiders?

(I'm the main person in here, and I'm a straight female in a female body. Two others inside are straight females, and the third is bi and into all sorts of kinks. We've managed to work out a compromise (in theory) that this body won't be with another female, but that we can each negotiate open relationships with the (male) people we care for. The deal has been in place for a while now, but we are only *now* starting to venture into each having our own relationships, so I no indication on if this is really going to work or not. (What kinks we will allow the forth to do with this body is/are also still being debated))

Thanks for your time...

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

We have problems as well, but we are in a monogamous relationship with a male. We have bi/straight/gay/not interested males and females inside. Our rule is that anybody (of legal age) is welcome to have 'relations' provided they let the outside male know who they are, what they want to do, and have his agreeance beforehand. Of course, there are also limits on what can and can not be done - for example nothing that will make others too uncomfortable to face the outside male the next day, is permitted, and so forth.

Unfortunately, it does not work perfectly. With a system well over 400 (and counting) things get messy. There is always someone who does not obey the rules - or who does not get to do what they want, because the outside male disagrees or it is against our rules. Despite all that we do have it down pat and it rarely causes a large problem anymore.

We wish you luck in solving things for yourselves!