She said No she said, they said

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

We are having the weirdest experience with a outside friend of Tieas.
She'll often start a quetion with Tiea with "So where do YOU want to go"? Tiea will typicaly wait a second or two and listen to us to see if we have a special place in mindwere all rooting for and answer the friend.
Allot of times the friend will say "we' disagreed and "came out and said something differnt", if its not a place the friend wants to go to, or like a movieshe wants to see, the friend will blame it on "us " and say "well all your little people couldet decide so were not going anywhere" If she's driving.

Or Tiea will end up some place she did not want to be and the frind will say "So and so said No" This is so NOT true and Tiea is catching on . We first off dont like being called "the little people" But to end up at a movie or club none of us wanted to go to and have it blamed on s is bothersome.

Has anyone had something like this happen? Were not sure weather one of us should say something( seperatly) to her(the friend)or wait for Tiea to say "No I was here and nobody switched at all" I dont think I'm explaining this well. But this outside friend will blame "us " "the little people inside "She even has called us "the munckins" Tiea just hung up the phone on her .
Peace Shelby

Comments

[3libras.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a real bitch. I say ditch her.

-Bellona

[eosphorus.livejournal.com]

what rudeness. if a friend treated me and mine with such an utter lack of respect, she would not remain a friend for very long.

[redrainstorm.livejournal.com]

Haven't had that happen. I wouldn't put up with it very long if it did.

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

I got a idea Hi My name is Elaine, and I see Kathy do this all the time . I think we should tell her we have a "tracer" that knows what goes on at ALL TIMES so nothing gets mixed up because Kathy is a MHP Nurse and might understand that from Pschology model of MPD's . Im Just 17 but I like my idea . What do ya all think?
Teens to the rescue again LOL
Thx Elaine with Shelby

manipulation isn't friendly

[drakul-apollyon.livejournal.com]

Keeping in mind that I just woke up, I would have to say that I agree with pretty much every one else who has posted. You do not need a friend who keeps messing with your head, and manipulating or trying to manipulate you. I can understand being worried about loosing one of a small number of outside friends. But if she is willing to use the other people in your system as excuses as to why you should do X-thing, that's quite disrespect in a number of ways. We have a very, very small amount of people that are truly friends but all the same prefer that over having a large amount that we might not be able to trust. Any way's, we wish you luck with dealing with this friend of yours.

Apollyon

[luwana.livejournal.com]

Tell her to stop lying in order to manipulate you.

If she refuses to stop this pathetic behaviour, I agree with ditching her. She's abusing her knowledge, and being a completely shit 'friend'.

[duathir.livejournal.com]

The likelihood of any 'mental health professional' believing in the reality of your Kin is slight. According to orthodox psychiatric dogma, it is not possible for more than one person to share a single body; therefore those who perceive themselves to do so are, by definition, mentally disordered.

According to established psychiatric tradition, it is acceptable to lie to and emotionally manipulate the mentally disordered under the pretext of 'helping them'. This frequently takes the form of pretending to believe whatever the disordered person claims to be true. You are certainly not the first to be taken in by this ruse.

What you may now expect of this person is that she will attempt to discredit you in the eyes of as many people as possible, by telling them things you have told her in as damning a way as possible and insisting that you are crazy. I do not know you or your situation, therefore cannot advise you, but can tell you that in a similar situation my advice to my own sister was to 'confess' that she had made it all up, that my brother and I did not exist outside of her imagination.

She did this, and while the consequences were not pleasant for her, they were better than they might otherwise have been. In this society, lying is such common custom that to be viewed as a liar carries no great weight of opprobrium, while to be viewed as mentally ill poses clear and present danger. I know it goes against the grain to claim that one was lying when one was not, but it is the most expedient way to contain the potential damage from having spoken truth when one should not have.

There is no way to prove you are multiple if you say that you are not. There is no way for this woman to prove any allegations of what you said to her, if no one else heard you say it. You have what is called 'plausible deniability' on your side, for most people in this place do not believe in multiplicity.