She said No she said, they said

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

We are having the weirdest experience with a outside friend of Tieas.
She'll often start a quetion with Tiea with "So where do YOU want to go"? Tiea will typicaly wait a second or two and listen to us to see if we have a special place in mindwere all rooting for and answer the friend.
Allot of times the friend will say "we' disagreed and "came out and said something differnt", if its not a place the friend wants to go to, or like a movieshe wants to see, the friend will blame it on "us " and say "well all your little people couldet decide so were not going anywhere" If she's driving.

Or Tiea will end up some place she did not want to be and the frind will say "So and so said No" This is so NOT true and Tiea is catching on . We first off dont like being called "the little people" But to end up at a movie or club none of us wanted to go to and have it blamed on s is bothersome.

Has anyone had something like this happen? Were not sure weather one of us should say something( seperatly) to her(the friend)or wait for Tiea to say "No I was here and nobody switched at all" I dont think I'm explaining this well. But this outside friend will blame "us " "the little people inside "She even has called us "the munckins" Tiea just hung up the phone on her .
Peace Shelby

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Re: We told her

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

Good point about the passive agressive. We know. We used to think Tiea was just painfully shy cause some of us that were there when she was young knew she was terrified to open her mouth and ever tell what she really thought, but as we grew with her, we saw she was trying to be herself,be heard and taken seriosly and please everyone in the world the result she was not saying anything she wanted ever or being herself or getting heard But we were hearing her allot.

We figure this= Passive aggressive, she'll complain to herself after a converstaion and we hear it the longest as she regurgitates it in her head. then outloud to get our attention, she can be funny to listen to, from my perspective.

We actually saw this friend the other night and she went on in a casual enviroment about how she aways thought "Little people" sounded better than calling them "alters" cause that didn't sound like we were real really to her, and at least she was acknowloging we exsisted.

Tiea did not respond to that statement and none of us did either it made us wonder. Like which would we prefer "personalities" "alters", "fragments" or "little people"? .

This I know for sure "Munkins "is unacceptable even though we do have some kids they have never spoke to her there too afraid to come to the outside world unless with one of us adults.

Hey how do you cross out what you write ?I havent found that key yet would ya mind sharng where it is? We make allot of mistakes and are always re- editing Thanks Lol Peace Shelby

Re: We told her

[luwana.livejournal.com]

[strike]I didn't say this, honest[/strike], Replacing the []s with the typical HTML tags.


Passive aggressive is an art form :P It's not being quiet and bitching when somebody's gone. It's *subtle* bitching. It's saying something which isn't *technically* something that should start an arguement, but that you know will, and in a tone that means it will. It's very hard to explain without examples, and my brain is mush this morning.

If you see sarcasm in a bitch fight, it's often passive aggressive ^^ Others will be better at describing than me.

We don't use strike tags for editing usually. We use it for "Here's what I really want to say but know I shouldn't, but for humours sake will say anyway followed by the polite version."

Re: We told her

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

AAAHHH strike tags ,we'll have to look for those. I like that idea, like this is what I want to say but to be correct I'll strike it but its still thee ha ah. Hymm Maybe Tiea isent passive agressive at all, maybe I got it all wrong cause she typically is completely quiet, doesnt say a word and then on the way home bitches to herself or us cause we can hear her.

She trys to please everyone, to the extent of losing herself . I'll have to look up what passive agressive definition really is cause we always thouht it was like... Person orders a medium rare steak, server brings them well done , person bitches to party there eating dinner with but refuses to tell server this is not what I ordered. I'm not sure if that is passive agressive a martyer or just plain annoying.

Thanks for the tip its off to another Manic Monday. I only have a half day due to peersonal days being taken. Thanks, Shelby

Re: We told her

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

Oh Oh Oh I just got it Tieas Grandmother was a real passive aggressive cause Tiea would respectfully cause she was a elder always say "Grandma why don't you just say it already its what your implying" Own it." Well allot of the problem with Tieas Grandma is she spoke broken English but she could make a point and drive it home .

When ever she did start a argument she would blame it on her bad English. She was the best lady though we miss her... Shelby
PS she taught us to cook and knit and take care of house and everything a Mother should, are Grangma taught us, cause our Mom was unable . Thank God for Grandmas