Introduction ~ Could Trigger~

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

Hi Everyone,

My name is Sherri. I am not a multiple, but a single. I am VERY close to someone who is a multiple and who is having a very difficult time with it of late. I joined last week and have been kind of lurking, just checking it out to see what it was like in hopes of finding out information for myself in hopes of being able to help him.

As of a month ago he had 7 alters, two of which are very extremely dominate and hurtful. One is actually out to hurt me through him, as well as destroy the core of him completely.

My friend IS growing weaker psychically and emotionally every single day that passes by. Right now he is unable to seek help because of a failing marriage. His wife does not believe that he has MPD/DID and refuses to let him seek help. They fight constantly, and the more that they fight, the more that they violent alters come out. My Friend actually fears for his wife's life.

I am frightened for him. I want to help and have no idea how. He lives in Arizona, I am in California. He fears that if I come there, the alter that is after me will harm me. So he wont let me near him now or in the near future. He wont let me near him until his alters are under any kind of control.

So, these are the questions that I have.

1. What can I do for him in ways of support to make him feel safe and secure when we talk?

2. If an alter comes out while we are talking (especially the violent ones), how can I bring my friend back in with out bringing harm to him?

3, How can I assure him that this isnt going to scare me away, and that I love him no matter what? He has lost so much because of his MPD... I dont want to be another person.. He has tried to push me away out of fear, and I havent left. He has always come back glad that I havent left. Even relieved.

4. Is there a way that he can become stronger or less weak untill he can actually get to a therapist?

Before all of this happened, he had actually had partially intregration done. All but the child was intregrated. Now, with all of this, he has actually discovered that he has more than he was first diagnosed with, which was 7... The more there are, the deeper and darker they become. It is scareing him to death. He doesnt know what to do, and I have never dealt with this before, so I dont know how to help him.

ANY help would be so appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

Comments

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

I dont know enough about this topic to comment. I am in the process of reading some books and trying to get the done before I start classes on the 26. I know for me I just feel so helpless because for one I feel so far away. I care about him a lot and I dont want to lose his friendship. He wont let me near him as long as he is this bad.

I do know that he is upset at discovering more alters, and losing the intragration that he had. His life is falling apart had the tip of his fingers and he feels helpless. I have sat on the phone listening to him cry, and offering as much comfort as he would let me give.

HIs alters are popping in in the middle of work, while driving, at the gym, while dealing with his kids. This grown man is frightened to death.

He has stopped going to the gym (he was lifting up to 700 pounds), he has stopped riding his pride and joy (a harley) for few that it will kill him. He is basically starting to put the life he was living on hold because of what is going on. He is so weak, that he literally got into a motor cycles accident night before last when one of his alters took over. He had to lay his bike down, other wise he would have been killed in a side swipe.

I am worried sick about him.

[shandra.livejournal.com]

Um - you do know that 700 lbs was the world record for bench pressing until 1995 and that not that many people have exceeded it since, right? How well do you really know this guy? I mean, it's cool if a multiple's an elite athlete but it sounds a bit fishy to me as details go.

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

yes, I do know. He was planning to go state wide competition. Yes, I do know him personally. We have been friends for a long time. He has been lifting weights for 3 years. He was just about to go pro when all this started again.

[shandra.livejournal.com]

I'm glad to hear that. Sorry for the suspicion; too much experience with fakers, I think.

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

I understand. I get the same way myself sometimes with others.

Dont worry about it.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

It happens. We knew a multiple who was a champion athlete. Can't go into details but we're talking Olympic level. Chose school instead of sports focusing.

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

that is great and very kewl. I am in the process of reading stranger in the mirror and they say that a lot of multiples are very intelligent and come from very high schooling, multi-careeres. You could never tell that they were multiples.

[shandra.livejournal.com]

Many of them being here. :)

[spookshow-girl.livejournal.com]

You're describing a serious athlete who ceased working out. That in and of itself is going to have a drastic effect on his health.

If the others in the system are fronting during work, or other necessary activities, it would seem to be time to teach them how to handle bodily responsibilities.

--Me

[autumskiss.livejournal.com]

They are. That is why he has decided to cease all activities and why he laid down his harley in a near fatal accident. I plan to talk to him again to today.

Thanks