I'll probably take flack for this but...

[annabellelaw.livejournal.com]

I'm kind of two people sharing the same body. A division of mind, two personalities with some shared memories.
I read some posts in this community & go "Yes... that sounds familiar. I'm glad I'm not alone."
I read some posts and go "Riiight... nutter, nut-ter. Notjob"
This place occasionally makes me feel sane because I read things from literate inteligent people who just happen to be sharing a body with others. Occasionally it makes me feel sane because I read posts and realise that I'm a healty sane multiple, not insane like the poster.

I'll not single out any individuals (forgive the pun) but the nut-job posts I read usually ... heck. I'm not going to give examples. I think you know which ones I'm refering to.

Comments

[annabellelaw.livejournal.com]

*giggle* Sorry... I know that was intended as shocking or insulting or something... but I had a mental image of you squatting down and trying to pull out an engraved brass plaque.

For a start, no one here is 'sane' I guess we could call each other nutter in the same way Samueal L Jackson can comfortably say "Nigger" without meaning or causing offence.

I do care about others who have problems, who are having a tough time, who are here for help. It's just that so often I see them getting help from those least qualified to give it.

"I have problem X"
"Oh... my Elf-Shaman-Starfighter-Alien-Mecha-Vampire-Jedi walk-in personality says that you need to do XYZ, and he should know, he's a wizard"
The problem is when you talk to people about the fact that they are a little 'strange in the head' they pull the 'multiple-tolerance' card and ... it's just plain annoying. it is possible to have a personality that beleives itself to be something else, another gender, another ethnicity, another age, even another species. No bones with thart. Why is it that so many I see seem to be... I don't know... I can understand it in a way, wish fufillment and all...

Or people are advised on how to get more multiple like it's some kind of competition.
"OMG! There's only 3 of us in here... how do I contact the silent ones and why do I have no inner world"
It's not a race to see who can be most multiple.

If you are multiple ... fine. Welcome to the club, there are a lot of us in here. More than you may think (I found out a friend is multiple a month back, after a couple of years of knowing them).
If you are able to cope in society, if you are a healthy multiple, great.

There are many ways to be multiple, or rather many perspectives, many ways of viewing the inside of the mind. Maybe you have a core central personality maybe not, maybe you have a system of sorts, maybe not. Maybe...

Maybe I should not have made the post and kept quiet. It's just some things that have been bugging me.

[tigrin.livejournal.com]

*nodnod* I understand.

I don't think anyone here is particularly qualified to give professional help (besides perhaps some of the psychologists, and even still..). People try to help in the best way they can, which is more often than not, just saying how it is for them.

I think it's one thing to seek advice on how to get in better contact with your system if there's some problem with communication, and another thing to try and force something that isn't there just to feel special. so you don't have an inner world or thousands of elves in your head. who cares. I do understand it's frustrating when more often than not, people seem to just want to fit in or seem interesting. especially if it's with a subject that's personal to you. I know that's one of the reasons a lot of people reject soulbonding.

the drawback of the Internet is it's impossible to tell if someone is being sincere or making things up for attention. but it's really not much different from "real life" in that sense. I've been lead around by a pathological liar before without ever touching the Internet. it ultimately comes down to how cynical and trusting you want to be. myself, I tend to think the better of someone before I think the worst. benefit of the doubt, I guess. I know how it feels to be treated like I'm just a nutjob looking for attention, and it's a crappy feeling when you're trying to be sincere and look for help.

[kangetsuhime.livejournal.com]

myself, I tend to think the better of someone before I think the worst. benefit of the doubt, I guess. I know how it feels to be treated like I'm just a nutjob looking for attention, and it's a crappy feeling when you're trying to be sincere and look for help.

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[bekkle.livejournal.com]

i think the wish-fulfillment thing you're talking about is present in everyone; just people who are not as 'tied down' to a physical body (body and mind being mutually exclusive to eachother, i mean) maybe have more of an opportunity to express this kind of behavior.

butidunno.

[kangetsuhime.livejournal.com]

*that* I do kind of hear.

I'm shorter now than I was when I arrived. That can generate a kind 'ehwtf' response. Fact is, without a solid body being the be all and end all of my self image, I am what I am. And if that's an inch shorter, whoopdeedo.

Ahh, context.

[spookshow-girl.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Now for some discussion. I understand your concerns. I can relate to some of them.

"Oh... my Elf-Shaman-Starfighter-Alien-Mecha-Vampire-Jedi walk-in personality says that you need to do XYZ, and he should know, he's a wizard"

"He's a wizard" is never reason enough to presume the person has the right answer. That's just a dangerous attitude to present at large. I don't care where he's from.

Then again, if it's sound advice, does it matter where he's from?

Or people are advised on how to get more multiple like it's some kind of competition.
"OMG! There's only 3 of us in here... how do I contact the silent ones and why do I have no inner world"
It's not a race to see who can be most multiple.

In general, manipulating your system to fit another's ideal is not the best of ideas. Some people have legitimate concerns as to increase communication, but in some cases, seeking new other people seems to be more of an attempt to distract themselves from trying to improve communication between themselves, or others outside the system.

I don't have a problem with speaking out, I can't even blame you for losing you're temper or getting frustrated every once in a while. I do recommend, however, that if you want to get the message across, there are ways to do it which are much more likely to reach the audience.

--Me

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

I read the rest of that first comment thinking "I wonder how big it is.. wouldn't that hurt? Pointy edges and all.. but I guess if there's only two names..."

[pthalo]

It's a Cucumber shaped plaque.

[hellmutt.livejournal.com]

Hear hear, dude.

[kangetsuhime.livejournal.com]

I'm a disincarnate spirit from another reality in which I was a vampire who has a correspondance in fiction in this reality.

Does that mean I'm not qualified to give advice? Half the time my advice is far more logical, and to our eyes sound than most of the more 'normal' people.

What a person is should not matter one diddley squat, even if they are an Elf-Shaman-Starfighter-Alien-Mecha-Vampire-Jedi walk-in personality.

Being a Elf-Shaman-Starfighter-Alien-Mecha-Vampire-Jedi walk-in personality does not automatically make their advice the bestest evah, but neither does it utomatically make their advice wrong, or their system delusional, or anything else.

[changelyng14.livejournal.com]

did we just conclude that multiples have no legs to stand on when talking about multiple issues, and that we should take the psychiatric communities word for it? *vanishes from existance in a puff of logic*

-Lovecry