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[fandolfini.livejournal.com]

I was just diagnosed with Did and am not doing to well with it. If there is anyone who could help me with this it would be appricated. Im not sure what is going on and all that kind of thing. I have looked up info on the internet and dont really understand most of it. Im not sure what is going to happen to me now and Im really kinda scared.
email is posted on my user profile I dont mind if you would like to email me to chat or whatever.

Comments

[emploding.livejournal.com]

maybe you can talk to the doctor that diagnosed you, because no 2 systems are the same. the basics of DID though are best found online, googling 'dissociative identity disorder' will give you the best results.

[fandolfini.livejournal.com]

ok thank you. I havent tryed Google I just tryed yahoo, so far.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Hello, and welcome to the community! Don't look up information specifically on DID for now. Instead, read these first:

http://www.astraeasweb.net/plural/faq.shtml
http://www.karitas.net/blackbirds/layman/

Do you feel that your therapist was correct? Do you feel that you are sharing your body with others? Keep that in mind as you're reading.

The reason I do not recommend searching pages on the clinical model first off is because whether or not you split from abuse, many of them can give you the impression that you immediately have to become dysfunctional after becoming selves-aware. This is not something that anyone should be seeing when they are unsure, confused and frightened. It does not have to be like what you see on those pages.

Take care of yourself, and remember that there are many systems who are living happily and healthily as groups, regardless of how they originated.

[fandolfini.livejournal.com]

Yes I suppose she is correct. I have people in my head who talk to me and have for years. They have started leaving me notes and introducing themselves. So far I have only been introduced to two. Sometimes there are cuts on my arms or face and I dont know how they got there, and sometimes people say they talked to me and I dont know what they are talking about things like that. I was told one of the others was at my therapy session for a little while last one I had.

I havent had a chance to look at the web links yet but I will do it. Thank you for your help

[iamshadow.livejournal.com]

It's good that you've got some communication already. That's really important. If the others in your system are making advances, then they're obviously interested in getting to know you, and to get you knowing about them. It's a really positive starting point. Build on all that more, and you're on your way to having a functional communications setup.

The important thing is it doesn't really matter how you communicate, but that you do. Whether it's notes, blogging, or internal communication, when you're talking somehow, you can start working out stuff like guidelines for who's up front and basic system rules. Important issues can range from taking medication on time, pre-agreeing on body modification such as hair colour change, piercings or tattoos, drug/alcohol/smoking/meat intake, to non-cutting/non-suicide agreements.

Though things seem pretty massive at the moment, you've taken big steps already.

Welcome to multiplicity.

[bizamoogie.livejournal.com]

scary thing, huh? we're (this community) will always be here to help ya out. Get comfy! I'm sorry I can't offer any real advice right now (I'm rushing out the door) Just know that we'll help you anyway we can.

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[fandolfini.livejournal.com]

Yes its very scary my therapist and shrink have been throwing this around for about a year but where never sure. It took someone else coming out for them to be sure. I have had people in my head talking to me for years, its just very scary. Im not sure how to tell my family about the new development because I do know that at least one of the others has spent time with most of them. I dont what any of my family to change how they feel about me or my friends. My mom knows and since she found out for sure she doesnt really call me anymore and that hurts.

I did a search online and thats how I found this community. Im glad I did.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

I have had people in my head talking to me for years, its just very scary. Im not sure how to tell my family about the new development because I do know that at least one of the others has spent time with most of them.

Telling your family is optional. Many of us have talked to people in our biological family, but used our general 'public presentation' and voice. I don't think they'd react well to knowing about us-- probably think we were 'going through a phase,' at best; and at worst, try to get us put in a hospital. >___< At this point, coming out would create more problems than it would solve. Our true friends know and that's what's important.

We have talked to each other most of our lives, but I guess it just didn't occur to us when we were young to be scared by the idea of other people in our head. We were each other's best friends and family, and support through difficult times. What we did get told by people around us, when we were younger and tried to explain to them about the others, was that we 'had to learn to distinguish fantasy and reality' and that we had a problem with understanding what was real. :p

welcome

[fireincarnation.livejournal.com]

welcome! I'm sure there are a lot of people here willing to help. Finding out you are multiple from a doctor has gotta be a hard way to go. There's a lot of things i wish people had told me about when i was starting out, like all the places the people in your head can come from and this wonderful thing called an In-system Aggreement. Anyways, we should talk. I'm fireincarnation on both AIM and yahoo messenger. Message me and I can help you through it.

Re: welcome

[fandolfini.livejournal.com]

thanks
I have yahoo its hhindsley
aim is on my computer but I dont use it. When I introduced to two of the others one of them said she uses my computer from time to time and I opened the aim thing a few days ago and the id is her name so i dont use it.
But thank you for offering to talk to me

Re: welcome

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

You can pick out another AIM name and make it your own, tell them they can't use it. Trillian will let you have as many AIM names and profiles as you want. It will also handle Yahoo, MSN, ICQ and IRC.

The free Trillian download is at
http://www.ceruleanstudios.com/

It sounds as if you are multiple and your doctor believes this to be so, but had to diagnose you with DID because that's the official diagnosis so that insurance will pay for your sessions. Good luck, and welcome.

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

Heya, we're new here too, though we've known about the way we live for awhile.. just now getting more comfortable talking with other people about it.. the websites that were posted are very good. our Yahoo is gryphonsinger.. feel free to drop us a line, or if anyone else wants to chat.. we're usually online...
Wind to thy wings,

[idianshire.livejournal.com]

I tried to write this last night but my brain wasn't cooperating.

Although being told you are multiple can be a shock it is important to remember you didn't just become multiple when you were diagnosed. You have all been living together for many years now, and probably have a personal style set up already that works reasonably well. Trust yourselves that you know what you are doing. This isn't to say there can't be improvements or you have all the answers. but the truth is usually you all (the whole system) knows what works best for you. Don't rush to believe what others say about multiple experience. It might be true for them, but there are no blanket statements, there is no "one way" to do things. Discuss, test, evaluate every bit of information you receive and decide whether it fits you, don't force anything to fit just because someone says it should.

Try not to buy into what I call the "drama requirement" I often see on other multiple websites and email lists. You don't have to cut, have internal wars, fall apart in public, and countless other dramas to be multiple. If soem of those things as aspects of your life then find a way to deal with them, to work through them, whatever. They can be challengeing but they aren't insummountible. They aren't just part of being multiple that you have to put up with.

I don't know how your system works, because well... I'm not a part of it. My last piece of advice, don't trust anyone that says they do, no one outside of your system can know that sort of thing.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

May we please use this statement in our FAQ? It is perfect.

[idianshire.livejournal.com]

The whole thing? Anyway, sure feel free

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

The whole thing. It's just exactly what we want to say to people who write us similar letters, "I was just diagnosed..." and so on. Thank you!

[belladonna1217.livejournal.com]

Hi,
Welcome to the community. You're doing great if the others are already communicating with you! I'm seperated from the inner crew and thus have to rely on written communication. I'm working on finding out why the others can't/won't get through to me any other way.

Do you lose time or are you always aware? As for parents, I refuse to tell mine. They'd just think it's another crazy notion, just like the childhood abuse.