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[3libras.livejournal.com]

We've discovered another Other.

This one is Sarah. She's a child. And, unfortunately, she does NOT get along with Bellona. They started arguing in 3rd period, and didn't stop until fifth. (My school schedule was first period, third, lunch, then fifth... so they were going at it for awhile.) Rosetta finally got them to shut up by yelling at them... probably shocked them into silence, since Rosetta never yells.

Yeah, just felt like blabbing. XD;

Comments

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Why don't they get along? Have you asked them why they don't care for each other?

[3libras.livejournal.com]

Because Bellona has a VERY short temper and doesn't really like anyone, and Sarah's just a brat. That, and none of us really like her.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Well, you can't let things stay in that state of affairs forever unless you want your life to be hell. Why doesn't Bellona like anyone? What is Sarah bratty about? Is there something specific she wants that she isn't getting? Communication is the key here. Don't write people off unless you know what motivates them.

[3libras.livejournal.com]

Bellona doesn't tell me much. =/ And Sarah, I think, just really doesn't like the way Bellona treats the rest of us... She doesn't take kindly to being treated poorly I've noticed.

[idianshire.livejournal.com]

You know I have a couple of thoughts. First, people aren't automatically going to be all nice and sweet and best buddies just because they have to share a body. Yeah it would be convenient and a lot less trouble if it was all one big happy family but I doubt that's going to happen, or at least it isn't a reality for our community. We try to be tolerant of each other for the wellbeing of the whole community, but sometimes, well some people just get on my last nerve. The second thing, Bellona being all short tempered and hating everyone. Well if as you say no one likes her and she is considered "bad" I can't say I blame her. Nothing like being labelled a trouble maker to make you want to live up to the expectation.

[whispersong.livejournal.com]

could just be they're both staking their territory or adjusting to new people. Sit down & talk with both separately & see whats going on perhaps?

Tatiana

[rhea-snowfox.livejournal.com]

sometimes if im fighting with bunny bobby steps in and pushes us apart cause its nogood if were fighting with each other be cause its distracting to him if hes doing work

he made the rules cause we fought a lto and it wasnt good for things for any of us so he amde the rules so we could talk about why we fought and it helped alot



dont yell at them too much though cause they dont probably udnerstand theyre doing something wrong

i didnt know stuff id id was wrong either before but i learned to understand not to do some stuff sometimes if it bothers the others because it hurts all of us

[3libras.livejournal.com]

Eh, Bellona hates all of us anyway. =/ She knows that what she does is bad... she does a lot of things that could get us in trouble. She smokes at school, cuts... all sorts of other things.

[shadowechoes.livejournal.com]

Ahh, she sounds like Our Jane. x.x These days Jane doesn't get away with her old behavior anymore though - if she even tries she gets sent to lockdown. A lot of Us don't get along well with her, especially the Mutts who hate her with a passion, but she's still one of Us. Kind of like a family - you don't always like your family, but you try to love them at least. If you give Jane a chance, sometimes she's not that bad. Maybe you guys can have the same luck with Bellona? Maybe all she needs is a friend (inside or outside).

[clanandinsiders.livejournal.com]

We too have had problems lately with communication. I do things that pisses Christi off and she has no problems telling me about it. Yet, we are best friends. I don't think a day goes by that we don't talk to each other. She gives me advice, she goes into fighter/protector mode when someone tries to get too close. When I am having a hard time with depression or my eds, she is right there to remind me I need to take care of myself not only for the body we all share but for my nine month old baby. She has always been an outspoken, tomboyish type and when provoked will not hesitate to tell you what she thinks.. you can imagine if she is angry at one of us what can happen. All hell breaks loose. Yet, she is there nonetheless... I can understand having differences or being angry but if you hate Bellona and Bellona hates you... what hope is there of opening up the lines of communication and living together. After all, you all live in the same body.. trust me, having some sense of order is a great thing when you are multiple. There was a time when we all did our own thing and everyone was out for noone but themself. Life was so chaotic and disorderly that it led to our downfall in the end.. it wasn't until we decided to stop ignoring and even hating each other and at least tolerate the fact we live together and will always live together that life had some peace and order to it. As time goes on, this order increases. We are now very functional. Although the lines of communication are still quite faulty noone hates anyone else .. if we are angry we confront and try to work it out. Maybe what she really needs is someone who will listen to her ... let her rant and rave if it helps her feel better. I totally understand where you are coming from but I can guarantee you that if you guys can't find a way to get past this, it can destroy you. Trust me, I am speaking from experience... :(

[whispersong.livejournal.com]

I hate to agree here with clanandinsiders but I have to say they are correct. My own system has gone through this too & it is not a simple thing to get people to talk. One of the Houses residents here, el, is our resident diplomat though she can be just as blunt as any protector I've met when it is obvious that is required to sort matters out. Mediation with her as the focal point worked for us in some situations when things would/could not be resolved tween the parties by themselves.

Tatiana