Multiplicity

We too have had problems lately with communication. I do things that pisses Christi off and she has no problems telling me about it. Yet, we are best friends. I don't think a day goes by that we don't talk to each other. She gives me advice, she goes into fighter/protector mode when someone tries to get too close. When I am having a hard time with depression or my eds, she is right there to remind me I need to take care of myself not only for the body we all share but for my nine month old baby. She has always been an outspoken, tomboyish type and when provoked will not hesitate to tell you what she thinks.. you can imagine if she is angry at one of us what can happen. All hell breaks loose. Yet, she is there nonetheless... I can understand having differences or being angry but if you hate Bellona and Bellona hates you... what hope is there of opening up the lines of communication and living together. After all, you all live in the same body.. trust me, having some sense of order is a great thing when you are multiple. There was a time when we all did our own thing and everyone was out for noone but themself. Life was so chaotic and disorderly that it led to our downfall in the end.. it wasn't until we decided to stop ignoring and even hating each other and at least tolerate the fact we live together and will always live together that life had some peace and order to it. As time goes on, this order increases. We are now very functional. Although the lines of communication are still quite faulty noone hates anyone else .. if we are angry we confront and try to work it out. Maybe what she really needs is someone who will listen to her ... let her rant and rave if it helps her feel better. I totally understand where you are coming from but I can guarantee you that if you guys can't find a way to get past this, it can destroy you. Trust me, I am speaking from experience... :(