the rape victim series II

[sosadlyfucked.livejournal.com]

"he said it wouldn't hurt"






About 44% of rape victims are under age 18. Three out of every twenty victims (15%) are under age 12.

rape, abuse, and incest national network

Comments

[ex-khailitha846.livejournal.com]

Go Elenbarathi! (Cheering and hooting and jumping up and down!)

For the record: I am the other friend mentioned in this comment. When I viewed Fucked's post, I mostly felt vague, scartissue dread and sidestepping numbness that is the usual reaction to "triggering" information, coupled with a, "hmmm... that's not it. That doesn't capture it AT ALL." At least not for Us.

When I read Elenbarathi's comment, Ah, then there was life. Actually burst into big fat tears with visions of my grubby little toddlers and catatonic infants hiding in her skirts and saying, "Yeah, So There!" Which was more healing and more valuable to me? Not a hard guess.

My gratitude goes out to you, Elenbarathi, there is no way to express the value and worth of seeing your words validating and defending Us. Thank You, thank you, thank you.

................

My question to Fucked is this: what is your intention here? Have you experienced firsthand a brutal sexual attack as a child? Are you working out your own shit here? We've produced alot of rather horrific art while processing abuse of horrific proportions. But, as a professional artist, I have to ask myself very carefully with each piece what the intention of the piece is, and where it belongs. Much of my process art does not belong in public venues. And I would never, never, put it in a survivor community WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION AND A WARNING LABEL.

If this is your own process art, then it is my feeling you should consider very carefully whether displaying it at all is beneficial for your healing (if this is YOUR stuff and YOUR story, I'd treat with loving care and compassion), and if so, how and to what audience would it's exposure be appropriate. If you are just an artist pretending to express on behalf of those of us who lived the reality you are marketing, I question your ethics and intelligence. If you are a troll, who gets off on shocking and triggering people where they are fragile and most in need of sensitivity, I question your right to exist.

It doesn't seem you are considering carefully or with integrity either the function of your piece or its proper audience. And on behalf of all the scarred, broken and bleeding babies in me.... You Have No Right To Speak Our Truth... You have no right to affiliate yourself with those who are working through, healing, and surviving the kind of abuse you so clumsily portray. To simply post your image without an explanation, without a cut, without a warning, leads me to believe you are not serving Our interests or Our issues. Your lack of sensitivity, failure to ask permission, and co-opting of other's pain for your own agenda denies my struggle rather than validates it.

.....................

Still dancing and hugging Elenbarathi.

".....never underestimate the power of fighting for the kids."

Takke.