Two-sided Love Triangle

[walkerinthegrey.livejournal.com]

Two of us (in this system) are in love with the same person- a singlet. He recognizes us as individuals, and, more than that, loves both of us in return. He feels kind-of weird about it (the whole polyamorism bit), mostly that he finds himself wanting to be with both of us. This whole thing confuses him. Ariel and I don't mind sharing him, but we're just having problems working out how the hell we share time with the one that both of us love. This likely doesn't make any sense, but if you have any advice- or have any questions for me to clarify, please respond.

Comments

[shandra.livejournal.com]

On a practical side, schedule dates so that you each have -some- guaranteed time at least.

On the poly side, it's not easy - first rule is always communicate, communicate, communicate.

Shandra

[chaostiny.livejournal.com]

There are about 8 of us now that share our fiance. He is also a singleton although he does have a huge idea about having things "inside"... he has severe ADD and disappears into his head for hours sometimes. He recognizes us each individually but also encourages us to share the time instead of divide it up... I will tell you this.... the more of us there are sharing when we are being intimate... the better it is for me... and therefore tis better for him as well. It has helped our cooperation... therefore, less... and I mean WAYYY less stress and arguing internally. If we want individual time, we schedule it. and make sure HE knows who is around:)
alex

[elenbarathi.livejournal.com]

I don't have any advice, nor questions either, but I just wanted to say "Yay, way to go!" for the two of you finding someone to love, who loves both of you in return. Congratulations; may happiness be yours.