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[walkerinthegrey.livejournal.com]

So I made a mistake. I was using the body, and Ace's boyfriend was talking to me online. He was talking about past lives, and things, and telling me quite a bit more than he'd told her, so I encouraged him. However, I felt a little guilty, so I stopped just dropping subtle hints and flat-out told him that I wasn't the one he thought I was.
You see, she'd already explained to him about our multiplicity.
But then, the unexpected:
He refused to believe that I was not her, no matter what I said.
I thought he could accept it. I thought he would understand. Hell, so did Ace.
Instead, I'm within an inch of driving over there and shooting him. (Well. I was. I'm a little calmer.) It's just very, very, very frustrating.
What do I do? There's no way I'm going to sit around and stick my thumbs up my ass and deny my own existance.
Hell no.
(Oh. Like my Yule icon? Innit nifty?)

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Wonderful Icon

[gia1977.livejournal.com]

Very wonderful and pretty. Yep, very nifty! Moving on: People refuse to see what is before them most times, even in writing! Denial is such a petty thing, yet it is there!!! Not sure how I can help, but icon is neat!

[pengke.livejournal.com]

Now was he denying that you exist and there are people other than Ace or was he simply refusing to believe that Ace wasn't the person he was talking to?

Since you had to tell him you were someone else, maybe he have just saw it as Ace playing with him or figured he would have noticed if it had really been a different person. It's also possible that he was embarrassed that he'd told all that to a stranger when he thought he was talking to Ace so his immediate response was to deny that he had been talking to someone else.

[walkerinthegrey.livejournal.com]

The first.

[elenbarathi.livejournal.com]

I say let Ace deal with her own boyfriend, you don't have to do anything.

[bialmighty.livejournal.com]

Stuff like this really, really freaking annoys me- I have been in your position before, and it wasn't fun >_<
I can't really give you any advice except give it time, maybe get Ace to shout at the guy? (or even shout at him yourself ^_~). It might not make the situation any nicer, but you will feel better.
You never really know how people are going to react to things until after the fact, unfortunately.

What is Ace's opinion of the boyfriend's behavior? Is she doing anything to help you?

(I'm not really good at this, sorry -_- I'll try harder next time. Hope you feel better soon, and that everything goes okay. Good luck)

[shandra.livejournal.com]

That kind of response sucks.

Some time might help; if you never talk to him again he never gets the chance to change his mind. It'd be important to let him know that it's you though. Not in an arguing way, just 'ok, to let you know, it's me, to continue our discussion...'

It also sounds like Ace has some work to do with him around multiplicity. Does he know any other multiples?

Shandra

interesting thread

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

totally agree with you...

hm your icons are neat...need to get some myself. heh

El

[moonfroggy.livejournal.com]

sometimes it takes a little time for stuff to sink in, rob didn't beleive me at first when i told him about some others, it wasn't until he met a few face to face that stuff started sinking in, even then it took him a while to realy beleive what was going on
he was always very respectful of all of u even when he had doubts though, thats important, respect is important