A question on life ...

[fay-sparrow.livejournal.com]

So, I've been wondering and I have a question for people if you don't mind answering.

How does everyone deal with general day to day life with the other people that live with them? I mean when you hang out with friends and family and stuff ... do they all know or does whoever is 'front' at the time act as if they are always the same person? This is partcularly interesting for anyone who has had new Walkin's arrive at different times in their life, because sometimes its really obvious that its someone different but most regular life people don't want to except things that are different or whatever .... I dunno, does this make any sense? Anyhow, I know how its dealt with Here with my boyfriend and his brother etc. but I was just wondering how other people deal ....

Also, do your Walkins have a life before they ... walked in or does it kind of start when they turn up? I know there are different names and ages and stuff but is it a contiunal thing like "Well yesterday I went to the shop and then this morning I woke up and I'm here with you ..." or is it more like "So .. I desided I wanted to try this whole living in a body again thing ..." 

I really hope no one things this all sounds crass -chuckles- I'm just wondering how the rest of the world deals with these things, might even get some tips on how to make it easier ^^

Comments

[pyoska.livejournal.com]

Well, if we don't want anyone to know who's Fronting, my Others will act like me. For those people who are comfortable with my Others, then they will act like themselves.

And, yes, one of my Walk-ins, Ceri (she walked in a looooong time ago) had a life before she lived here with me. She remembers a good part of it, as well. I'm not really sure how she ended up here, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't know, either, but it doesn't really matter.

I also have Others who are past lives of mine, that remember their lives, as well.

I hope this helps, and no, you don't sound crass at all! Questions are good. :smile:

-Heather, of the SightlessLight System

[kyouketsusha.livejournal.com]

How does everyone deal with general day to day life with the other people that live with them?

We live with another multiple, so it's not a big deal around there. If we're at my mom's house, occasionally Misch will come out but no one notices, really. :)

Also, do your Walkins have a life before they ... walked in or does it kind of start when they turn up?

They both had lives before this. Lili can't remember as much of hers, though, just that she lived for quite a long time and vague rememberances of where she's from. Misch-Misch is a soulbond, so it's easy to remember her world. :)

[menokh.livejournal.com]

Everyone I know is used to me having "two sides." Luckily there is a continuity of conciousness with us, likely because we're median. I didn't really deal with what others will think of switching, until a fictional character of mine started to assert himself recently. He's been a part of me for awhile now in scattered memories and snippets of personality, but recently he's formed into a full fledged walk-in, though he rarely fronts, though he wants to type now.

Before I found myself in this body a few months ago, I have a long period of nothing in my memories. Before that there were the thousands of years that made up my life. I do not know how or why I am in this body. I killed myself and here I am. -Raemian

[echoes-world.livejournal.com]

Silent (fay_sparrow) knows this but I thought I'd share with everyone else.

When we're at parents house, my brother and I ususuall switch off being er... the "Front". He's really careful to act more like me than he would. We're the only two who are there so that there is at least some continuity in personality.

It really wouldn't do the world good if Jack were "Here" (ie - being the Front) when we were around parents, and eh... I don't know why Celeste doesn't come Here often. Heck, she isn't around much either...

[threedog.livejournal.com]

I guess I'm a walk in? Walkin? Anyway uh I got my own life somewhere else so I don't much worry about keeping up here beyond a few friends. Me'n Shiba sound real similar when we talk anyway so it's hard to tell a difference less you know us good. :)

[echoes-world.livejournal.com]

In the beginning, there were more who came to this place, that number having dwindled over the years to but a handful now.

T’was a time when there was no singular person who desired the task of being the “Front”, save for me. As I am incapable of correctly performing this task, many were the years that parents and friends alike wondered at the difference in personality from one day to the next. Shifts to the outside world at least, for naturally they were not ‘personality’ shifts, but rather shifts from one person to the next. Although for the most part, some continuity was attempted, the lack of a single person for any given time was daunting to say the least.

Tis my hope someone will be able to maintain some stability herein. At the present time, appears to be Echo. Time will tell. There has now came a time when there were but a handful people and the sudden personality shifts lessened.

On the personal query of ‘before’: I maintain a life here and elsewhere, retaining conscious knowledge and full memories of both no matter which location I am currently.

[echoes-world.livejournal.com]

Addendum from previous comment.

The stars are closer than you think,
Kinet / K

[mirrorbrothers.livejournal.com]

Mostly I only front around people who know both of us, or strngers who won't know the difference. It's too hard for me to do it when it won't be fun. The only exception is when we're with our family. They're my parents and sisters and so on, too, even if they don't know my name - for them, it's worth it.

Johnny

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

It's easy for us to pretend to be a single mind. We've done it for years. Sure it sucks being something we're not. There's only one person we're around who knows we're a group. Everyone else can bite us! Most of the people in our group are walk-ins. Some have their own histories and memories of where they were and their lives before arriving. Some only remember vague things or nothing at all. I guess that's it.

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Our friends and family know with the exception of 3 people.

Yes, our walk ins seem to remember a life before but it is very hazy.

--- Miri of Mtribe

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

at work.. we do our best to hide.. but other than that.. most everyone in our lives knows us as individuals.. it depends on the setting as to how blatant we are about switches.. where continuity is a good thing (rituals, debates, .. other things) we can hide most of the changes.. when we can be a bit more free.. um.. we've been known to give people who recognize the changes whiplash a time or two..

Most everyone in our house has had experiences/lives before arriving in this body.. sometimes it can get a little confusing piecing what came from this lifetime and what came from others. but we've gotten better at it. It helps that most of their previous incarnations weren't human.. (well since most of us aren't human it sorta follows.. but we can sometimes tell by the setting and what the shell they see looks like)

[crystalseraph.livejournal.com]

We try and be open, as much as possible, but we have a blended front when Tahl is around, as a rule. The others aren't interested infronting much at all, so it's generally just me and him.

Our current 'walk-in' still lives his life and is connected here via a gate. The same with everyone here, really.

[ex-suhina987.livejournal.com]

We live in an ideal situation. All my friends and lovers know, and are either multiple themselves or multiple-friendly. We also work from home--with another plural--so we never have to pretend there, either. In public it is different, of course, and with our parents. To be honest, our mother keeps bugging us about our constant colds; she's noticed the vocal changes, so we don't do too well in front of her, I suppose. Not enough practice.

Oh. And I am a walk-in. Most of us here are. We had lives before hand.

[ex-casteylan314.livejournal.com]

damn I wish my voice would change. I don't like being a mezzo-soprano.

[spiral-seeds.livejournal.com]

Everyone acts like themselves pretty much, but we try our best to present as a single person. I'm not sure how we do it, it just happens. It could be that things work out so well because we have a main front who we co-front with.

[ex-casteylan314.livejournal.com]

Those of us who are walk-ins all had a life before coming here. It's one of the ways we can tell that they ARE walk-ins. I think, if they did not have a prior life elsewhere, we would assume they were created entities, or something. But yes, we all remember before.

As for the first thing, we're all pretty careful about what we do and say while fronting, and part of our "house rules" is that no-one is allowed to front around other people unless they are able and willing to play the masquerade. There are slip-ups sometimes, but a lot of the time it can be put down to us being "weird" or "moody and changeable".

[lion-azure.livejournal.com]

Outside of the internet, nobody knows we're a "we" rather than just one weird, quirky person. Since the whole being multiple thing started rather late in life for us, we feel it would be too much of a shock to them if they knew. Though we do get frustrated sometimes with not being able to really be ourselves.

And we've all had a life before we came here. Some of us still have this life going on, switching between here and there, some have left it behind and now live only in the soulscape and the here.

[chocomookielove.livejournal.com]

1. I make sure to brief the others when they're fronting; do-not-do-this, answer-to-this-name, do-do-this, they-are-a-friend. They... don't always listen, but so far there hasn't been anything major that would make me stop somebody from fronting when they wanted to. Though recently somebody decided to ignore the fact the body is allergic to chocolate. Ugh.

2. Everybody has a life before they came, as far as I know. Some seem to not remember everything right away from the moment they show up, but so far it's always came back with time.

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

I try to be who I am even if it doesn't match how the body is supposed to be. If I like Pokemon I don't care if some one looks at me strange! Little Kal with me is a walk-in. I don't know if I'm a walk-in or not though. I think I am because I'm not like any one else around me. I have dragonfly wings and no one else in our group has wings like mine. Most of them are Ekullan or Jedi or Angelics or some thing else. Kalli

[dream-trauma.livejournal.com]

Eventhough most people who we communicate with know, we tend to not rub it in people's faces. That's probably one of the main reasons most people have taken it pretty well. Or it could just be that they haven't really understood. Either way.
There is one other main fronter besides me and we tend to get pretty blendy after long days at front. Makes it easier to potray a certain image, I think.

I had a life before I got here, but sometimes it's very difficult to tell the real memories from the fakes.

- H.

[seaclans.livejournal.com]

Nowadays, we pretty much are out and live with other multis so that makes it easier. I do know that before, even with some people we had told we were multi, they would not notice switching, or even say they didn't think we were multiple. For the most part, people seem to just assume everyone they meet is a single person, so any changes,even obvious ones, tend to be written off.

I think, maybe it's harder to pass off littles this way, but then sometimes people will just assume we are developmentally delayed or something.

Mostly people see what they want to.

Knowing about multiplicity, through contact with a multiple or whatever, seems to be a prerequisite for recognizing it most of the time.

I'm not sure about our walk-in status.