family problems
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we are the little ones. we have a question for our friends. we havent been around for a while and we are happy to be back online and seeing our friends posting things.
since we were last here, our big one merged with jd and the prof. that is our protector and our work person. it is good because now she/they are very strong and jd can still separate off sometimes if he needs to protect us (does anyone else have experience of merging together but can separate out when needed?)
anyway our real question is to do with our big one making plans for us. she wants to go to nigeria to a family wedding and we DOESNT want to go, not at all. it is too scary for us little ones and for little j also. she is only 4 and she is just learning to be out. we want to stay home where we have our AA meetings and we feel very safe. we doesn't mind going some places where we can still go to AA meetings and talk on the phone to people who are supporting us but we doesnt want to go to nigeria, it is just a small village and we doesnt have anyone to talk to there.
we told her we doesnt want to go and now she is thinking she cant go but she is very mad because she thinks we should be stronger and better. she says we are making her weak because before we came out she had superpowers. meaning she didnt feel anything and wasnt scared and could do what she wanted. does anyone else have this experience? what do you do when a strong one wants to do something but the others dont? if it is just a day it is ok we can stay inside but not for a 10 day trip.
we likes playing, cuddling, staying home, being safe, going for walks and kayaking. not going on long trips far away where we are not very safe and we are very alone. plus we likes church, singing, icecream, animals, but not spiders or bugs. we are out everyday. sometimes we sit just behind her and watch and comment. sometims we come in front and we talk and do fun things. anyway that is just a bit about us.
love from
the little ones, J system
we are the little ones. we have a question for our friends. we havent been around for a while and we are happy to be back online and seeing our friends posting things.
since we were last here, our big one merged with jd and the prof. that is our protector and our work person. it is good because now she/they are very strong and jd can still separate off sometimes if he needs to protect us (does anyone else have experience of merging together but can separate out when needed?)
anyway our real question is to do with our big one making plans for us. she wants to go to nigeria to a family wedding and we DOESNT want to go, not at all. it is too scary for us little ones and for little j also. she is only 4 and she is just learning to be out. we want to stay home where we have our AA meetings and we feel very safe. we doesn't mind going some places where we can still go to AA meetings and talk on the phone to people who are supporting us but we doesnt want to go to nigeria, it is just a small village and we doesnt have anyone to talk to there.
we told her we doesnt want to go and now she is thinking she cant go but she is very mad because she thinks we should be stronger and better. she says we are making her weak because before we came out she had superpowers. meaning she didnt feel anything and wasnt scared and could do what she wanted. does anyone else have this experience? what do you do when a strong one wants to do something but the others dont? if it is just a day it is ok we can stay inside but not for a 10 day trip.
we likes playing, cuddling, staying home, being safe, going for walks and kayaking. not going on long trips far away where we are not very safe and we are very alone. plus we likes church, singing, icecream, animals, but not spiders or bugs. we are out everyday. sometimes we sit just behind her and watch and comment. sometims we come in front and we talk and do fun things. anyway that is just a bit about us.
love from
the little ones, J system
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Date: 2007-05-16 01:46 pm (UTC)I don't know what would happen if they felt you were multiple.
Lots of good people there, just not like government, laws and prejudices.
--- Miri of Mtribe
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Date: 2007-05-17 02:19 am (UTC)The little ones in my system like a lot of the same things you guys do, playing, cuddling and going for walks, but they can't talk well or type or write by themselves so I am helping them. They are nervous and feel afraid for you little ones too (about the trip to Nigeria) as they need a lot of safety and lots of things scare them and they had to hide for so long they are afraid of not being able to come out.
In my system if something came up (like a 10-day trip from home) the adults would create a safe place inside for the little ones and then during the trip, if possible would try to find private moments where the little ones could come out, maybe when laying in bed before going to sleep a little one could come out and be held by the adult. Also if there was a nice place to walk in nature in a new place the little ones would be excited to be able to be held or carried (co-fronting) by an adult and they could see some fun things.
"Today we went for a walk by a lake and saw a KingFisher (bird)! That's what we would do, stay safe inside until we could peek out at safe moments. We would want the adults to be kind to us and not mad, that would make it easier to find a way that everyone would be okay."