Partners of MPD's

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

This may not be the place to ask, but I hoped someone here could help us.

Our core has a life partner and She is not happy with Us being MPD. Long story...sigh if you want to know just ask Me in My journal. Point is I need some help. We hoped to find a list or something or websites taht are good for partners of MPD's in the hopes of giving our core's partner some information & insight & perhaps a bit of support.

I would prefer a list w/out Fivepests on it. heh. Heard about them recently and want to avoid those idiots. If its a website, it has to be easy to understand in everyday terms I think b/c She knows little of MPD except what we've told Her or what She's read in books like "When rabbit howls".

Ty A/all.

El

Comments

Well, it's a small small offering of assistance...

[nematoddity.livejournal.com]

Try leaving a note in the last entry of catdancer. She posts, like, NEVER, so I'll have to bug her to check her journal. She remembers me back before everyone fell asleep, she's been introduced to all of us, things I have no memory of...and she's close friends with another system in a separate body. She might have some tips for you.

After all, she's still with me...*shrugs*

So, dunno if that helps or not...but it's something.

Re: ok I must ask...

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

ty
Will try that. ;)

El

[pengke.livejournal.com]

We know someone that runs a list for SO's at Yahoo. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/supportersofmultiples/

They might like it there. It's open to multiples to so all of you could join. If nothing else, they could ask for recommendations for other sites and groups.

[(Anonymous)]

We are on several lists with Fivepests. She/They're alright; they just post a lot and never trigger anything.

Several sites:
http://www.abcofmpd.com
http://www.emedicine.com/PED/topic2651.htm#
http://dissociation.com/index/Definition/

The last site helped Our Core's significant other reach better understanding.

Good luck.

-Brian of the Ghostwalkers

Re: ok I must ask...

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

fivepests as I understand it is a fake ...
a group of 5 yale frat boys trying to destroy or harass ppl on mpd lists.

if you go backa page or 2 on this LJ you'll se ea post by someone about "her".

may want to look into it. theres even a "fivepests get lost" list on yahoo.

El

Re: ok I must ask...

[gia1977.livejournal.com]

Okay I was doing the right thing, trying to go back a page or two to see what you were talking about with Fivepests and stuff. The only reason I'm even asking is because I knew a "FivePests" on an MSN group and I just wondered if it was the same female. I would appreciate if anyone would let me know, so I can do some research. I've had to deal with people lying on boards and groups and I am not sure about this matter. Very insecure, so I would like the straight news on it.

Re: ok I must ask...

[(Anonymous)]

It is the same Fivepests if they routinely posted entries about five children and their assorted mental illnesses, what they were having for dinner that night, and what they'd bought on sale at walmart that day.

The main reason that the rumors that she is a fraud are so persistent is that Fivepests crossposts the exact same posts to literally dozens of groups. At one point everything from multiple groups to autism and cooking groups were being flooded daily with these pointless entries that never had anything to do with the actual topic of the group. Fivepests are indeed pests because they don't participate in any conversations within the groups and can smother any active conversations. There is no telling how high the number of completely unrelated groups they crosspost to actually is.

Re: ok I must ask...

[gia1977.livejournal.com]

Okay thanks for letting me know! It is the same one. I wasn't aware of all the groups she's involved in and I do understand the reservations and you are right to feel that way. (As if I had to mention that... sorry!) I was a bit worried about it being something worse. I do worry about being a cross poster, so I feel that if anyone wanted to read something about me then they can read my live journal or better yet, they can ask me. I also feel if I have something relevant or important to share with this group, I will come in and directly post here. Otherwise, I keep all my stuff in my journal. Again, thanks for letting me know!

Re: ok I must ask...

[(Anonymous)]

Lots of people crosspost things. It's a great way to save wear and tear on your fingers when you want to share with or seek advice from several different places. I doubt you really need to worry about it unless you notice it becoming excessive.

Fivepests goes far *far* beyond crossposting. She came up once in a conversation and we confirmed over twenty unrelated groups that she spams with her copy-and-pasted messages. This doesn't include any of the private groups she's a member of or the public ones that didn't show up on a simple search. Plus it's not as though her messages contain anything pertaining to the topics of the groups.

You don't have any reason to worry that you'll become like the Fivepests or be thought of like her.

Re: ok I must ask...

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in at least six of those groups 'she's' on. She was just banned from one of them for her lack of etiquette in the group, and her refusal to trigger her posts.

Re: ok I must ask...

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

last site doesn't exist...

but ty the rest do :)

El & Adriana

Re: ok I must ask...

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Well, I wouldn't recommend that site anyway. Check Astraea's http://www.astraeasweb.net/plural/ or the Layman's Guide http://www.kitsune.cx/blackbirds/layman/

Hope this helps you and/or your SO.


Gemma

[moonfroggy.livejournal.com]

our significant other, or boyfriend or fiance or whatever he is, life partner, rob, it took him a little while to adjust, but also I started finding out that there was others besids me not long after i started dating rob, rob is part of what triggered other to wake up, he was the first person i ever really talked to about my life and my past at all with, he was scared at first, and so was i, and then others would talk to him and i wouldn't know what was said, and yeah, but after a while he did start to understand and he is very cool with everyone, and is totaly ok with us now,
he is here in the office with me, so i asked him what helped him, he says mostly talking to me helped him, but also the book allies in healing has been very helpfull for him

he never got into email lists or web sites though
goodluck

[shandra.livejournal.com]

My husband's not into lists either. I'd encourage your partner to even just join a list for multiples and get a feel for what a range of people are multiple and how richly they enjoy their lives and partners. The Positively Plural (http://positivelyplural.myforums.net) board might make a good entry point.

Shandra

[inner-ensemble.livejournal.com]

Hi, this is Scout.

That has to be a difficult position for you to be in. I may stop by your journal later, so that I can get the whole story. I hate contributing advice without being clear on the situation, because my perspective might be leaning in an entirely different direction than the reality... please know that I'm just offering my thoughts on the issue and I mean no harm to anyone.

I don't have websites, nor reading lists, but your post did strike a chord within me, and I feel compelled to comment.

I think that the more understanding and awareness your partner has for you and your system, the better she will be able to respect who you are. In my mind, that's sort of what it boils down to. I could not pursue a long-term relationship with anyone my whole system did not love and trust. Part of that is earned by my partner taking time to know and love the rest of me. I suppose that would be my suggestion- Let them get to know her, and let her get to know them. It has been my experience that allowing everyone to be known is a very positive experience. Anyway... I think I've rambled blindly enough. Please keep us posted, and I hope things go well. It is wonderful that she is inclined to try to understand.

[myorp.livejournal.com]

yes... i agree. too few words right now to say much else but...

if your s.o. is trying to understand all of you do your best to explain what you can and if you don't know how just say so. i've found in trying to explain /us/ to people we know who are curious sometimes the others have to explain some things and they can get to know them themselves as well. so... yeah. its just like making friends with any group of people as far as i can see.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Well, ok, here's a question. Do you think of yourselves as having multiple personality disorder, or do you think of yourselves as being multiple? If the latter, we wrote something about it: http://www.kitsune.cx/~amorpha/so-faq.html We like to think it's in very straightforward, easy-to-understand terms.

If the former, however, I'm afraid we really can't offer much help ^^ And I don't know who Fivepests is, sorry.

Gemma and Anthea

thx

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

whats the difference please?

and um yes She's trying to understand. will keep you posted..not much is in the LJ tho about Her as yet.

El

interesting thread

[sexylittleone.livejournal.com]

for that yahoo groups for fivepests:

http://groups.yahoo.com/groups/nomoreheathers/