Fronting Identity Question?

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Anyone else get "lost" in who's out? Our singlet friends will sometimes ask, "Who is out?" and the answer sometimes is "Don't know." The voice can be a cue, but there have been times when we really have to think it through. (Okay, this must be Richard because of the way I'm holding my head.) Stuff like that.

Not sure which of us is writing this now

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[weirdiguess.livejournal.com]

Me, not so often. The girls do it sometimes and they say every so often I get mixed up in it. They tend to make up names for person A + person B so that people know they're speaking to more than one person kinda all muddled up.

They can pick up some things, but it's not a great way to tell. My way of talking's a little more distinctive than theirs, but usually if we're 'muddled' and my language comes up, I'm not really the main one out and might not even know what's going on.

[phen0type.livejournal.com]

Occasionally that happens when we awaken, but things generally seem to 'float' back together. We sometimes have an unidentifiable stream of thought, but we usually work out who it is in a relatively short amount of time. 'This is Lucianus, this is Hesperus, this is Kerry, this is Carmen' or whoever else it is in our group.

We also have distinct accents, which helps.

Richard of Fen Group

[20splinters.livejournal.com]

This does happen, especially when we first wake up in the morning or are absorbed in a TV show, video game, book, or artwork. Currently there isn't anyone who asks who's out, but when there was, we'd either have to think about it before coming up with a name, or we'd just answer "blended" or "co-present," with or without possible names of people in that blend or co-presence.

Hence stuff like the icon I'll post with this.

JOey

[our-menagerie.livejournal.com]

It happens to us a lot more now than it use to. I think because there are usually 3 or 4 of us so close to the front that we um well we call it being "squishy" or "smushy" lol the kids do anyway. We dont like it when it takes a long time for us to get unsquished though lol.

[hydra-system.livejournal.com]

This happens to us a lot. Or someone will come and go so quickly it's hard to tell. Also, we experience a lot of passive influence which can confuse things a bit. Usually we can figure out who is who by thinking about it and noticing certain things that are unique to a person/being.

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

I haven't had any problem lately knowing I am myself. The problem with that is I don't know much of anything about myself except that I am Butterfly. I can feel my own sense of myself and know I am me. When the others come here to front with me, I'm aware of them being here with me and when they leave. I know some of the others in the group I'm a part of have said that there were times when they all feel smooshed. I sometimes feel like that when I feel their emotions so intensely while they front with me. It gets so nice and emotionally quiet when they return home for awhile. :) I love them though, of course. The emotions get to be so much sometimes.

When I first separated in November, the first time I asked myself "Who am I?" I realized that I didn't have any idea of what my name was. It's all a long story and I'm sorry for going off topic. :( Knowing that this essense of me is me and not anyone else is about all I am sure of. Now if I can figure out the rest.

-Butterfly

[browncoatrebel.livejournal.com]

Definitely. Our fronting is odd in that people usually front through me-Sara, and there can be several people fronting through me at once. We get sort of blended sometimes.

[crystalseraph.livejournal.com]

Sounds very much like what we have. I feel like I'm in the background, but I know that I'm not doing a lot of the things that Tahl is doing, even though I can watch and have influence.

The blending happens all the time =___=. It's quite frustrating.

[browncoatrebel.livejournal.com]

It's not really a frustration to us anymore, though it definitely was at one point. Blending and co-fronting through me seems to be how our system functions best, and we're a big fan of doing what works.

[pthalo]

yeah that happens to us sometimes. it's kind of weird because i feel like i should know who i am. but sometimes when i'm out it's like "i'm... i'm Josh? i think?"

Way too often

[catchild.livejournal.com]

recently we've been having this problem way too often. The answer either being I don't know or (Legal Name) (there are roughly 20 folks in here with that name and we all answer to it due to normalflage training)

~currently Andara

Re: Way too often

[worldnamer.livejournal.com]

I just want to say that "normalflage" is an awesome word. :)

Re: Way too often

[catchild.livejournal.com]

Grin we came up with normalflage because it isn't really camoflage that we do we are trying to appear normal not concealed. I've had friends get upset over our inventing words but really English sucks for describeing lots of things so it's either resort to other languages or make up a word to describe stuff.

~Berry

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Yes. Waaay too often. And some times we can't figure it out. :-D

[athousandmoons.livejournal.com]

We don't have anyone who asks, but that happens all the time now, although it used to happen less. We sometimes don't have any way to tell. I think we've adjusted to it a little lately, though, which is good.

~Mel

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

it happens to us. it's usually quite disturbing to us, when it happens...Jaysun(my husband) may all of a sudden look at us and go, "who's out" and we'll look at him tearfully and say, "Don't know."

it's not fun for us when it happens, and we even have meds we can take to ease it a bit.(our md was reallll good to us)

Rick
Pack Collective

[cactus-guys.livejournal.com]

We often get mixed up, and we hate it when people say 'Who's that?' and we say we don't know. Then they ask 'Male or female?' thinking we'll know, and it's like, 'Aargh! What do I say?'

- Kyle (with Andy correcting typos)

[lorebesh.livejournal.com]

We're always like that, really. The boundaries between us are never that distinct.

[ex-pinkmonk.livejournal.com]

We blend, too. Everyone filters into a program that runs the body. The only one who really LOVES/NEEDS to front is Lola, who is the most brazen. And the most fun, honestly. XD

[shadowedkitsune.livejournal.com]

we have that trouble sometimes, usually when Playing a video game, watching a movie, or right after waking up. We'll stop and go, "and who am I again?" it's somewhat annoying actually....

-Lynn and Mau