searching for our angel guide

[visionaree.livejournal.com]

Hello we are in therapy with goals to intergrate fully without silent partners. We are experiencing some great deal of resistance to therapy would really appericate some knowledgable insight from someone whom has own system with concerns of sra complications without giving misconception of interest in sra. Our system is considered complex and complicated with aggressive tendencies toward intergration; aithough, most of us desire to stick it out in therapy until the end. We know that it is what we want becauses a few have tasted the sweet bitterness of the hardest have ever put into anything in this world. Intergration isn't threatening to us anymore, and maybe even in one of us the vision has always been there of coming together by her light we see the path that ends with our healing. We are not interested in mere chit chat or friends to shoot the shit with, but are hoping to find this cite as a resource . We have enough friends and foes within this desperate mind to fill a stadium. May God send an angel guide here. ANYONE WHOM IS OFFENDED PLEASE WE ARE JUST DEDICATED TO HEALING AND FAMILY INSIDE AND OUT, AND THAT IS ALMOST TOO MUCH AT THIS POINT. (I'M SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY!)

Comments

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

I hope everything turns out in the way you want it to with the the least amount of discomfort. *warm hugs*

[visionaree.livejournal.com]

Thank-you!

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm not offended by being dedicated to healing and family. Those are definitely very good goals. I do have to warn you, though, that this really is not a recovery community as such. If you want specifically to talk about abuse, recovery, etc, issues, there are other communities which focus on that as the main goals. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you being here; there are people here who identify as trauma-created, or have integration as their goal, or who have backgrounds of abuse/trauma independently of their multiplicity. I'm not offended. I am thinking that there are places where you might find more resources for that than you'll find here, however. we_thrive is specifically meant to be a multiple-positive recovery group, for instance; there are a few others, though I can't think of names off the top of my head, but can probably come up with a list later.

[phen0type.livejournal.com]

I am not offended by this, but as I am following a different path from you, I haven't any advice to give you, unfortunately. We only know the path of remaining separate and co-operative entities, so I am afraid that I cannot help. I hope that others' suggestions are helpful, and I do wish you all the best of luck.

[hessgasm.livejournal.com]

good luck! don't know how to help but i still wish you luck!

hess of fen group

[nat-leia.livejournal.com]

I've integrated myselves spontaneously, I do not think this can be really forced, depends on the other happenings through life...

-Nat of Avalanche

[netdancer.livejournal.com]

Netdancer Collective will never seek any kind of large scale integration, but we've had people voluntarily choose to merge permanently with others sometime, so we've observed it on a small scale. It seems to work out if both people wanted to do that very much and they trust each other. (Trust is a big, big deal...)

So by 'feel' we'd suggest...work on trusting yourself. Believing in yourself? (Does this sound right?)

Hope all goes well for you.

[shandra.livejournal.com]

We are experiencing some great deal of resistance to therapy... Our system is considered complex and complicated with aggressive tendencies toward intergration... We know that it is what we want

It doesn't sound to me like it is what EVERYONE wants and perhaps that is why you're experiencing resistance.

[morgil-lomion.livejournal.com]

As I have examined the issue, I believe that the keys are communication and trust. Sometimes the process of healing cannot ever be fully "complete" but is more like a road, along which one must progress. Sometimes you may take wrong-turns and have to backtrack.

These things are always the necessary keys to healing any relationship. You must be willing to do whatever it takes. If you believe this is something you need to be healed of, then you must convince the Others who you wish to merge with to accept it. Force will not work, anymore than it can in any relationship. That is the road of destruction, both quick and broad.

The correct road is nearly always the more difficult one. You must stay the course and struggle onwards, with a gentle stubbornness that Rightness be the goal. Prayer for wisdom to discern the right path is a necessity.

Ask people you know to give you prayer and support. God will show you what is right... and it will not be easy. But it will be right.

Do not let anyone else tell you what is right for you or try to force you into anything. That decision can only be made by you, and the only one who can truly know what course your life should take, is God.

For us, this meant accepting the life he has given us. For you, it may mean healing. Listen to the still-small voice. The Sprit moves in mysterious ways.

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

We wish you comfort and health. We can hardly understand the trauma you must have
experienced. The worst we have experienced were the years of being bullied for being
different, familly violence and painfull eye problems.

As far as therapy is concerned not all therapists nowadays are of the opinion that
integration will bring relief. There is a model that posits that all humans are
multiple and that cooperation and awareness will bring better function. Integration
is widely misunderstood as the dissapearance of all persons/parts in the psyche. This
is not true. Understanding and awareness of all means that your psyche has integrated
everyone into a working group.

If you are in the Chicago area i can referr you to a very good therapist who specializes
in treating hurt multies. ...she is my cousin.

Kind regards.

--- Miri of Mtribe