Can I ask you a single question without getting 20 different answers?

[20splinters.livejournal.com]

Uh, there are 21 members in here that I know of.

Bleah. Trying to explain the multiplicity thing to the roommate last night. He asked that question and wanted to know who the "main" is. Uh, don't have one. There's a tendency for 1 or 2 of us to be the main ones fronting over a long time span, but there's a regular "changing of the guard." The last few days there's been a lot of co-presencing and rapid switching back and forth, so I guess we have been more confusing to people outside than usual. We've been just not mentioning when we switch and letting the roommate experience us without knowing, but that can lead to awkward situations.

He and Shel are lovers, but I feel only friendship. But I'm social and like physical contact, so he gets the wrong idea sometimes if I hug him. And Wish, Wish just tries to avoid contact or conversation because he knows that people react badly when they find out they're dealing with a gay elf boy in a female body. Guess I shouldn't tell the roommate that he kissed Wish. I think that's kind of funny even though Wish is embarrassed.

I'm not quite sure how to explain to the roommate better, and it needs to be done. He's a decent guy in every other way, and if some of us weren't here he and Shel would be really great together, but he just seems completely close-minded to anything but the standard psychological explanation of multiples. Any ideas?

Gab, with some co-presencing by Wish and Janna

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[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

We use sliders to show people who's out at any one time, so they don't make mistakes like kissing someone they shouldn't.

in addition, show him our faq. it's here (http://rickmacleod.bravehost.com/packcollective.html) it might help. sometimes reading something out, in detail, might help. Or make your own, and show it to him. It's helped so many of our friends understand.

Rick/Liz/Wolf
Pack Collective

[20splinters.livejournal.com]

I've got the introduction all written up with link from my profile. I've tried to get him to read it and some of my LJ stuff before, but he's never wanted to. However, he did happen to come up and read this entry just after I posted it >.< (Of course, the one post that had stuff in it he wasn't supposed to know!), so maybe he's willing to read stuff now.

What's a slider?

Thanks
Gab

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

uh, I had posted a pic of it somewhere, I'll see if I can find it... it's an arrow, that can move to point to different names.

like this:

rick _
_
liz <--_
_
tara _


see? we made one out of paper, and tape, and put it on a cardboard backing. I can give you instructions on how to make one, if you like :)

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

I like that idea! :)