Saying Hi

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Ok, I'm really nervous about doing this and if I do something wrong I'd be grateful if someone tells me.

I know I don't have to introduce myself, but thought it would be ok so you know about me up front as it were. Sorry if I bore you.

My name is Timothy (Please call me Tim). I'm 29, male, I have sandy blond hair and blue eyes. I'm slim and around 5'9" I live in Fort William in the West Highlands of Scotland, Uk. I have a partner of 10 years, David, (Yeah I'm gay.) and I love him to death!

I was 'diagnosed' with MPD when I was 15. I had 4 years of therapy and met David when I was 19. He was a volunteer counsellor at the time. 'Multiple ' is the wrong term for me, There is only me and Ray in here. Ray is everything I'm not. Tall, dark, confident, out-going, more like David. I know the general assumption is that 'multiplicty' comes about through some form of abuse or something. I want to be right up front and say that's not my case. My parents Lillian and James have been nothing but loving and supportive of my duality and life style. When I was 7 I was knocked off my bicycle and in a coma for 2 days. When I recovered I discovered I had a 'hitch-hiker' , Ray. He's here all the time but only fronts when I'm in stressful or difficult situations and David isn't around. (They get on well) I hope its ok that we are only a 'pair' as it were.

To cut it short I'd like to be friended by like minded people. I live in a very beautiful but lonely part of the world. I have a boring job in a bank and David works long hours, so I'm alone with Ray a lot. David and Ray (David found this site) both thought starting an LJ and meeting people like us would be good. My journal is brand new and I don't really know what to do with it. I have more about me there and I'd be so grateful if anyone with the same interests and situation would like to contact/friend me.

Thanks for listening.

Tim/Ray

Comments

[kyouketsusha.livejournal.com]

Welcome. I think you'll find good support here, as well as input from all shapes and sizes of systems. We've got everything here from twos to hundreds (maybe even more), so don't worry that you won't fit in or anything. :)

Kyou (& Liliane)

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Wow! I'm blown away by how nice people have been in replying. Ray said it would be ok and David said I need to be able to talk about things to people who aren't going to judge me other than him.

Thank you again for the welcome.

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

Tim and Ray, it's nice to meet you both. :)

We honestly don't believe there should be "guidelines" for being Multiple. For a few years now our group has considered ourselves Multiple, yet recently we're moving away from using that term because we're tired of bumping into critical opinions from those who believe that only trauma multiplicity is "real".

If someone tells another they are Multiple, the automatic reaction is abuse-created, or other "symptoms" that flaunted created by media.

Since we don't wish to be connected to the bad media portrayals any longer, we're looking at our lifestyle as spiritual. This way, if we relate to ourselves in a different manner, then maybe we won't be asked such doubtful questions any longer. Of course, there still will always be doubters, but at least it won't be from others who also considered themselves Multiple, as if every Multiple Group were supposed to be identical.

Mainly, we said this to let you know that how or why you are both together aren't as important as the fact that you just are. So don't worry about trying to fit into a clique or matching guidelines with other groups. Everything that exists for you both is unique and special for you. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise! :)

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

I really like that icon :)

Rick

[cirape.livejournal.com]

'Multiple' is the wrong term for me, There is only me and Ray in here.

I thought the definition for 'Multiple' here was more than one person in the same body?

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

it's a general word that covers the basics and is good to use mostly for relating with others, but sometimes the word can hold other meanings, or those with tiny groups (under 5) could feel that "multiple" sounds like a larger number than just 2. *shrugs* I don't know. We've been working on what this word means to us personally, ourselves.

[ricktboy.livejournal.com]

Welcome Tim and Ray. You live in scotland, I think that's awesome, as I'm sort of a displaced scot myself ;) I'll explain that more another time.

It's absolutely fine with us that there are two of you, and I think it's WONDERFUL that your folks know and accept it.(not to mention David, who sounds awesome also.) I'm genderqueer and bisexual, myself...and there are a couple in here who are also gay(you'd probably get on famously with Wolf, he's a gay brit.)

also? I LOVE your icon. I'm a big fan of Buffy/Angel and Highlander(I'm a MacLeod, lol).

feel free to friend us, email us, IM us, whatever.

Rick
Pack Collective

Our FAQ (http://rickmacleod.bravehost.com/packcollective.html)
packcollective@gmail.com
AIM: collective10in1

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Hi Rick! I can't believe it! You like Buffy and Highlander that's awesome!Ray and David both say they can't believe there's someone in the world as sad as me! (Its ok they were joking!)

Yep I'm a Celt through and through. I was born here in Fort Worth and my family have farmed around here for generations. When you say 'displaced' did you emigrate or something? Is your clan name McLeod?

I say we live in the wilds, David says its semi-rural. We live on the edge of the town. Our nearest neighbour is about a quarter of a mile away and it's a three mile drive to work. Its a mixture of farms, holiday homes, camp sites etc. We have a back drop of hills and fields and a small forest. (David says its only a wood!) Its very beautiful, but umm not exactly lively around here. (Although we did have a stag in the garden on Christmas Day, David was looking for a jolly man in a red suit and his shot gun. I wasn't sure if he was going to shoot Santa or the stag! Actually he'd never shoot the deer, though they can be dangerous when they have antlers!)

I'm really sorry and my ignorance is showing. I don't know what a 'genderqueer' is. I'm gay and always have been. I have female friends but sexually they terrify me. Ray is bi-sexual and we have had many an amusing incident when he's fronted and he has a wicked sense of humour. Oh lord David is a 'gay Brit' he's from Lincolnshire originally and he's not a multiple, but his sister was, and thats how he got interested in it.

Wow you have a multiple called Wolf? That is an awesome name.

I'm going to friend you if you don't mind and I might email if David says it is ok. Thanks for the contact.

Tim and Ray

[lion-azure.livejournal.com]

*waves* Hello!

Nah, multiplicity doesn't have to come from trauma. We certainly didn't have any omgtraumatic!events that made us split from our landlady (host). We just... jumped aboard for the ride, so to say ;).

And it doesn't matter how many you are, if you're more than one, you're multiple.

- Malak

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

I don't know if the accident counts as 'trauma' I really don't remember it. I was unconcious and had a broken arm and a couple of ribs and ummm Ray.....

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

heya.. and welcome..
we're not big on definitions either.. more than one soul=multiple.. whether it's two or thousands..

feel free to message us either on here or on messengers if you have any.
-Damrys

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I don't have any messengers, but David said he might set me one up.

[paladin1701.livejournal.com]

well, Tim, I'm just a singlet, but I think its very brave that you decided to open up to a community of others who live plural. Though your case doesn't involve the same things as the main character, have you ever read the novel "Maribou Stork Nightmares" by Irvine Welsh? I would recommend it. It's not always a pleasant read (his brilliance is in how he treats subjects so horrible with language style), it is one of the few I've found that matches up with the idea of inner worlds in the same way that my other friends who live plural describe. It might be a comfort in some small way.

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

I haven't read that, but I will certainly look for it. Thank you. The thing is I live in a community where everyone knows you and it's rather 'backward' in some areas. I can only really talk to David and my parents who are very supportive. I really want to be able to talk about things with others who understand.

[bound-innle.livejournal.com]

Hi there.

You seem... interesting. Think we'll friend you, if that's all right?

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Wow I'd love that! Thank you

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Hi. ::Waves:: We don't have the same situation, but we might have the same interests. Either way, we are multiple. Just figured we'd say hi!
Rayvin

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

*Waves* Hi there.

[weirdiguess.livejournal.com]

Nice to see someone else from this corner of the world.

That kind of assumption doesn't tend to get made here (the abuse thing). And the girls here used 'multiple' when they were only two. If you want to use that label, you fit it, so you know.

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[freakshownia.livejournal.com]

Are those your parent's real names? If so, that's neat XD (Same as Harry Potter's parents!)

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

They are their real names. James and Lillian or Lilly are still very popular names around here.

[teh-kerry.livejournal.com]

Hi to Tim and Ray, and welcome. :)

We don't live anywhere near you, but we have been around Fort William on holiday (well that area of Scotland, anyway) and it's very beautiful.

Welcome to the group and we hope you find it beneficial. :)

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Yeah its a really lovely part of the world, Thanks for the welcome

[kalli-moon.livejournal.com]

hello Tim and Ray! there are 2 of us to! I'm Kalli and I'm 9 years old. Little Kal is with me and she is 2 years old. I don't know where she came from either. She was here one day and she never went away. I love her so much. some days she hides alot and she cries when I am sad about some thing. I try very hard not to be upset about any thing because I don't want to make her cry. But it is so hard to be happy all the time. My best friend Sweetness loves Little Kal and she loves to brush her hair when she is scared about some thing. Little Kal loves bunnys and I have a pink bunny named Sophie that is really hers. But most people only see me so they think Sophie is only mine but she holds Sophie not me. haaa! What is the name of your world? what is it like there? It's nice to meet both of you. bye! XOXOXO Kalli

[kalli-moon.livejournal.com]

oh ya! Adam from highlander lives with our group! bye again! xoxoxoxo Kalli

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Hello Kalli and Sophie, Adam too. It's really nice to meet you. My part of the world is called Scotland and if you look at a map of the British Isles we are right at the top in the North. It's very beautiful where I live with mountains, rivers, grass, trees and stuff, but not a lot to do. We have a lot of animals too, deer, foxes, stoats, badgers, rabbits and even the odd red squirel and pine martin. My husband, David, is a vet so we have a lot to do with the animals. Ray lives with me and he likes animals too. We had a real bunny when I was small called Fluffy, he was black and white very bad tempered.

I think it's really cool that Adam lives with you.

[ghostwalker.livejournal.com]

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :)

[tahaton.livejournal.com]

Hello hello.

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Hello from us too :)

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Hi !

Welcome ;-)

--- Miri of Mtribe

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Thanks! :)

[liedownlovely.livejournal.com]

Hi there Tim! Its nice to see another gay couple together for so long! These days it seems impossible to hang onto somebody.

Our system started out with only 2 too. It doesn't make you less of a multiple and size doesn't matter. We've grown over the years to a grand total of 6.

If you don't mind I'd like to friend you. I can never have enough friends especially somebody who I can talk to about long lasting relationships. I'm afraid my husband isn't very social and can be a bit rough at times but I would sure like to talk to you (and Ray!) Welcome the community!

-Kevin

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Oh God Kevin, this is great! Yeah we've been together ten years. I met David when I was 17 and we started seeing each other seriously when I was nearly 18 and we were a couple by the time I was 19 and living together 18 months after that. David has had other relationships before me, but there's only ever been David for me.

Please friend us. I'm afraid I'm a bit antisocial like your husband! It's not that I don't like people, I just tend to get tongue tied. Ray usually fronts at parties and stuff. I'm sure ray would love to talk to you.

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Greetings!

There are only two of us. Me (Juli) and Richard. No trauma on our part. Richard has just always been there. Feel free to friend us. Richard is "akintodel" on Yahoo Messenger, and I am "terendel" on AOL, if you get to that point.

Juli and Richard (who is also gay and would love to talk to some like-minded guys)

[timothymcdonald.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I'll friend you straight away. :)

[tvoytoy.livejournal.com]

nice to meet all of you.both Tim&Ray and David.
you look to be ready to change smth in your life (your soul? your mind?) and i want to wish you enough fire and fuel for such changes.
and happy new year

[tvoytoy.livejournal.com]

nice to meet all of you.both Tim&Ray and David.
you look to be ready to change smth in your life (your soul? your mind?) and i want to wish you enough fire and fuel for such changes.
and happy new year

Greeting and Salutations. :)

[medius-tandem.livejournal.com]

Hello!

[underlankers.livejournal.com]

We are the Superhuman Crew. We would like to wish you welcome. There's an ever-rising number of us, and so we can't give you the full number, but nothenless, we'll say hi. Hi!