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[rabbitsystem.livejournal.com]

Just out of curiosity, how do other systems switch fronter? Do you have triggers, or prearranged times, or switch according to the situation, or what?

Edit: It seems the accepted word for 'deliberate trigger' is 'hook', meaning something used to bring someone to the front when needed. We use something of this sort and were wondering if anyone else does.

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[jerseytwo.livejournal.com]

There are some things that I almost always do, and some things that Jes almost always does. We both have a really bad habit of yanking the other one up front when we don't want to mess with something. She does it when she gets upset or when she's been out front for a really long time (family vacations, extended weekends with people, etc). She freaks out and runs back inside, sort-of-asking if I'll take over for a while. If I'm not ready, sometimes it takes a minute or so for me to actually pull it together and get control. The only time that was bad was when she got claustrophobic driving through a big city on a highway. There was some fuzzy driving for a little while there.

She's better than me at taking over when she wants. I can push and poke and basically annoy the crap out of her until she lets me take over, but I'm not real good at just shoving her out, which she can (usually accidentally) do to me. But I'm also real bad about yanking her out with no warning. I haven't gotten the hang of talking to people, cause it's not something I've ever done, so hearing myself talk with the voice I think of as hers still weirds me out. When she's hanging around watching, it's easy and I just let her slide in and respond. When she's off somewhere else, I get a little shaky and demanding and try to force her out. I'm working on that, cause I want to talk to people, but it's a process.

Anyway. Definitely a longer answer than you probably wanted. We switch really fluidly, and can co-front as well. Sometimes we frustrate each other, but so far it's worked.