Interacting With Others

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Richard here. I know I'm not the only one who's experienced this, but I guess I need to hear that. I hardly ever front. The first time I ever fronted, the person I "met" wanted to integrate me, effectively killing me. My mindmate never associated with that person again. Well, fronting and interacting with others hasn't exactly been easy after that. We've made a couple of friends who now know about me, and I'm testing the waters with email and the like. Well, I don't do it that often, and I sometimes say the wrong thing. I get teased about it, and I just don't deal well with that.

Any other infrequent fronters have the same experience? I got teased today. It was harmless. I know that. But it still hurt, and right now I feel like pulling back inside and never coming out again.

Comments

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

*nods* we have a few who aren't around much.. I'm sorry you have had such bad experiences..

we agree with child_recalled.. get support from inside.. and then try to build friendships outside.. I know it's hard.. but maybe set up a regular time for you to do something you enjoy.. outside.. walk dogs, goto an arcade, go to the library, skating, something..
I don't know your living situation, but maybe if your gender and your shell's are the same introduce yourself to people by your name.. or a nickname you can agree to.. that way you'd develop friendships with people who share your intrests.. it's an idea..

Hope things improve for you soo.
-Darius

[terendel.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the comments, gryphons and child_recalled. Support from inside I have, though there are only two in our system. But my gender and the shell are not the same, which makes it harder for me to introduce myself to others. Love to do it, but I'm not going to pretend to be female when I'm not. I'm trying to develop relationships on-line instead.

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

Ahh, *nods* we run into that situation a lot.. since most of the primaries here are male and shell is female.. You are welcome to contact us online.. on yahoo or aol.. Gryphonsinger and Phyresong respectively. ..