Question

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Why is it that people will describe others in their system as parts, aspects or facets of themselves or of some greater overarching single self, but then go on to talk about how they don't like others in the group or are afraid of them or want to get rid of them?

Isn't that just basically saying you're fighting yourself, are afraid of yourself or want to get rid of yourself?

If you see yourself as being in a "parts/aspects of one" setup, every time you attribute any kind of trait or tendency-- good or bad-- to other members of the system, aren't you basically saying that you yourself possess that trait? I mean, it is entirely possible for a person to persecute themselves, but if you talk about conflicts with others in-house after saying your system works on that basis, why should I treat it or think of it any differently than a matter of self-persecution?

Comments

[mysticeden.livejournal.com]

Isn't that just basically saying you're fighting yourself, are afraid of yourself or want to get rid of yourself?

Thats exactly it. Fear of yourself and what you think, of what you are capable of and aspects of yourself. Also some other may have memories you would rather not face so of course you will hate them, you hate the memories and what they bring you.

[vinik.livejournal.com]

Seconded. That's why I personally used to refer to others in our system as 'parts', as well as persecute them. I was really insecure back then.

-Jen

[mysticeden.livejournal.com]

Same thing with me, thankfully things are much better now =D

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

We don't like the term 'parts' at all.

--- Constance