Children in Chat Rooms

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

I'm new to this community, and new to live journal in general. I've known I am multiple for a number of years now and have great communication, and feel that there are little limits to what the mind can do. The purpose of my posting is asking what you think about people who are multiple who let their system's children to come out to talk in chat rooms? Tonight I was watching in on a chat room where a child did come out and began chatting. I don't have many children in my system so my opinion is based upon just observation of others with no personal experiance. Is this such a good idea? There is no telling who they will meet online. What do you think?

Claire Formay

Comments

[emploding.livejournal.com]

it depends on what sort of chat it is ... if its a safe chat, or one for multiples .. then i think its great.
some of our lils have friends they chat to sometimes, other lils, in DID chats and even a few non-DID chats where people know we are multiple...
even lils need to have fun and have friends and stuff like that .. and as long as there are some older ones/adults around, i dont think its a problem ... well, its not for us anyways, i can imagine other people may think differently though..

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Why on earth not? Any responsible multiple system should have the capacity to allow children to take the front and attend chatrooms or whatever they please, with an adult or two around just within range. Not hovering.

Our children don't front much because they don't like the body, but they're vocal commentators on anything and everything that goes on. Children are not helpless; they are active, observant, intelligent, and curious. They are also likely to be some of the most valued members of your group. The more experience with life and reality they can get, the more all of you will benefit in the long run.

Also, children in multiple systems, because of communication and knowledge-sharing, tend to be a bit more aware of the adult world and its implications than out-system children. Don't assume necessarily that they are naive or can't handle themselves. This is true even of children in groups that experienced no abuse or trauma in the classic sense.

[qilora.livejournal.com]

what *they* said ;-) (points up to Andy's post)

although, i *do* have to admit, me and Julia tend to hover if the kids are fronting....
and there are a few of us in-house who are not really "kid people", and they are never the ones doing any of the 'babysitting'...

Julie

[ladydancerhouse.livejournal.com]

Why not? Kids wanna talk too. :)

Okay, our kids do love to talk to people, and they have a lot of thoughts on complex things that aren't the forte of some others. I mean, I wouldn't call them Claudias under any circumstances, because that's an entirely different sort of thing. *shakes head*

Sometimes I think it would be better if they didn't, in some places, but if they want to talk, then why not? As long as it's not say, a sex chatroom, which none of our kids would want anything to do with anyway, I don't see why not.

[prettyrazor.livejournal.com]

We let our kids talk on the DID lists we're on and on our DID Livejournal. (This one's more general.) We don't go to chatrooms often enough for that to be an issue. When the kids are on the surface, we usually just let someone who is older stand by and watch, make sure nothing bad happens.

[cheshire-house.livejournal.com]

I think it's exactly the reason systems have guardians. Good thing for these guardians to know when and how to take the keyboard away. :)

[the-kaeru.livejournal.com]

Personally, my little kids are bad! They'd have our credit cards out and get on a pokemon site in a second! But seriously, it depends on the kids' age and where they are emotionally, just like outside kids.

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

Dear Larz, that sounds like The Kid. We can't go grocery shopping without him dragging Us into the candy aisle and getting a pile of gummi worms and stuff.

My ex and I used to joke that he and Megan (one of her littles) should NEVER be allowed out together unsupervised or the bodies would wake up 12 hours later covered in sticky crud from candy and cookies. Then We'd have to take showers, which would bring up a certain OTHER pair who would shanghai the bodies for a completely different purpose, which would leave the adults out cold, letting The Kid and Megan start the process all over again.

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

It's difficult now for anyone to come out and not be directly supervised. Since we don't really have small children in our system we don't have to nessesarily worry about candyand cookies. Just the more expensive things that older peole enjoy.

Vice.

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

Sounds like Ray (a VERY POed 17 year old) and his partying habits. I've had him go through a hundred bucks of drinks in a night a few times, and that's one of the least dangerous things he does. He likes to pick fights. He's tried to join the Nazi Party as a sick joke (nevermind that We're half Gypsy...). He's always trying to pick up women (which I don't particularly mind on general principle) then treats them like toys. Aside from the fact that he's treating other people like crap, he's also leaving Us open to some serious retribution if he decides to screw with the wrong girl. I get the feeling one of these womens' suicide attempt was at least partially the result of his behavior.

And people wonder why I assigned one of the Internal Security guys specifically to keep an eye on him...

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

Yes, we had a thing going on occasionally with a girl named friday. bad girl. one night she had us at a strip show and then three hours from home in some hotel with an ugly ugly woman. She behaves now, since we split her, and punished her several times. but what can you do?

Claire

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

I sic guys with crowbars, rifles and chainsaws on him...

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

well, that works too. Each time friday has done soemthing I've had to stop one of our security people from just cutting her head off. I felt friday was a worth while person, and had some value. Of course its taken a few years to behaive, but now she is doing pretty good. Even though I have a lot of responcibilities, I check on her myself from time to time.

Vice

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

"Each time friday has done soemthing I've had to stop one of our security people from just cutting her head off"

Heh. Sounds like the relationship between Jake and Ray. He keeps asking why he's not allowed to just put a 14.5mm softnose through Ray's brainstem and be done with it already.

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

yeah, ours was named Guardian. She doesn't carry that job anymore though, and goes by felicia. Shes happier now, and has her own children. And she doesn't ask anymore if she can cut Friday's head off. Although, there was one guy, who caused a lot of problems, and the security woman named Canary chopped him up and put him into a ziplock baggy, and kept him on her mantle. later I put him back together as a girl for punishment. He enjoys it now, but had a real hard time dealing with it for the first few months.

Vice