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[shadowedkitsune.livejournal.com]

Hi everyone.  we're new here, so I guess we better introduce ourselves.  This is the first time we've tried to explain our rather confusing situation, and we've only been consious of being a multiple for a month or so, so if this is confusing, we're really sorry.

  Our body is a female, but up in our head we have a human female (Lynn) who is the original soul, a female wolf (Silver) who has been here for our entire life, but only recently did we figure this out.  Lynn just thought she had major mood swings, but apparently it was a split of herself.  We also have a male cat, an Egyptian Mau (Mau) to be precise, in our head.  he's a compleatly seperate entity, to the point that we have memory blanks and have to work at finding the memories when he takes over the body.  So yeah, we're a bit of a messed up system.

Now that we've introduced ourselves, we had a question:  We were (well, mostly Lynn) wondering how one is supposed to cope with a split of one's one personality, like Silver is.  She's not "seperate" exactly, she's just a division of Lynn, but they're split enough that they act differently.  It's hard to explain, but hopefully someone will understand.  We're just not sure how to handle this, since it's a recent development.  We're pretty comfortable with Mau, because he only comes out when Lynn has a problem that she can't solve for herself, and he's a very very passive personality.  Silver on the other hand is a dominant/agressive personality, which goes in direct conflict to Lynn's passive one.  So I guess we're just wondering if anyone has any experience/advice for us on that?  once again, apologies if we confused you....

Also, on another note, our roommate has a question about a similer situation:  She is normaly a extremly non-violent person, she's a bit of a dominant personality, but anger and violence are usually out of the question for her, unless she has a REALLY good reason for it.  But lately, she's been haveing what we all thought were mood swings, causeing her to get angry, pissy, agressive, and destructive over the most random and stupid of things.  Given that she IS Bipolar, we all (us and the our other rommates) thought that was all it was, but today she went off on a couple of things, for example Lynn had told her that she would give her a massage for her sore back if she (Ari, the roommate ins question) reminded her, and Ari got angry and wrote a note to Lynn saying that she "had no hope of getting a massage".  This was really strange, because she seemed to have totally forgotten that Lynn promised her one, even though she has a VERY good memory for those sort of things.  Also, there were a few other discrepancies about the note: first, the handwriting was TOTALLY differnt from that of something that Ari wrote less than an hour later.  It was twice as large, alternated between printing and cursive, and was VERY sloppy, where as the second writing, done while she was calm, was neat, small cursive writing.  We've never seen Ari write like that, ever.  Also, she left it in the kitchen, of all places, something she'd never do.  When we asked her about it, she said that when she wrote it she didn't even notice that the writing was different, but when we showed it to her, she also saw the difference....  So it's all very strange, and She and us are wondering if maybe she might have some sort of split, since we can't think of anything else that would cause all those discrepancies..... 

So, if anyone has any ideas/opinions/advice, she'd really appreciate it...  Thanks so much.

-Lynn, and Silver

Comments

Stick in there...

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

For me it has been 10 months since i started realizing
that i am a 'we' and 3 1/2 months since we Fully realized.

It's a confusing journey at first, but at least for me
it has gotten much easier as time went on.

[squnq.livejournal.com]

Sounds like normal (if one could call anything normal) insystem communication issues to me.

Get to know one another better and work to figure out exactly who's there, it's a lot easier to get along when you actually know who you're working with.

[shadowedkitsune.livejournal.com]

*Lynn nods, quickly followed by Silver* Yeah, we tend to agree with that....I think that is the most sucinect we've ever heard it put before, the "aspect" part. Because yeah, Lynn and Silver usually share memories, at least mostly. if there's a memory blank, it's small, and usually could be attributted to our increasingly poor overall memory. And on that note: could the reecnt mulitiplicity have anything to do with a normally excelent memory going bad all of a sudden? It doesn't feel like blank (We know that feeling from Mau comeing out) but just a bad memory...

and on the subject of Ari, we're planning on doing that, glad to hear you agree we're on the right track ^_^

Thanks for the help/support

-Lynn

[shadowedkitsune.livejournal.com]

for us it feels like the memory is there, but we can't acess it. Kinda like what happens when you try to open a MSWord document in Notepad...all that stupid gibberish and symbols that you usally get....lol. It's rather annoying, especailly to me....*nods firmly*

-Lynn

[kalli-moon.livejournal.com]

hi!

[shadowedkitsune.livejournal.com]

well, hello! *waves*

-Lynn

Don't Panic

[firewheelvortex.livejournal.com]

That's pretty normal communication stuff, as is said elsewhere. The answer as to how you "deal" with such a person is that you let them be themselves and each of the rest of you be concenred with being yourselves; there are advantages to being different. And if you could be all the same, you would be.

"Integration" in the sense of making sure that everyone shares anything that matters to others - like, where they put the underwear - is desirable. But making people "behave" in a consistant way, unless there's an unavoidable social reason why that has to be that way is silly. Our general solution is to let people we know well enough know that we are multi, and then if someone pops out to join in, we introduce them. People worth knowing get over the "wierds" in about ten minutes. People not worth knowing freak out and run away. :P

I worked with a bipolar. Damn near made us nuts. Couldn't handle that level of inconsistancy! ROTFL! but "bipolar" is one of many initial misdiagnosess for multis, and of course, it can exist in paralell. I'm aspy, being multi allows us to function better. I suspect that personality formation is affected by or in part determined by neural net setup. It even makes a sort of sense that there might be different personalities associated with the different states.

Our advice is simply this: don't panic. Explore. If multiplicity as a personal paradigm works, she will find that including that idea into her personality makes her function better. Same for you.

Panic, fear and horror of course get in the way, and is a good way to become a "case history."

Way back when the net was flat and all this was very strange and new, the emerging realization was that multis (other than those who were deliberately created or patterended by systematic abuse) were as unique as snowflakes.

That's because people emerge under unique conditions to cope with situations of personal importance and system need, so it makes sense. Therefore, specific advice and terminology with built-in assumptions can get in the way. "Core" for example, or "host". Some don't have cores. Some don't have hosts. Some have many, some few. Some have very distinct people, some have alters, some have aspects, some have some of each. Hell, some systems have subsystems! :P Such as us. But we have always shared memory and been co-concious, to the extent that we have any of either.