Part of a system I am

[dark-musashi.livejournal.com]

Well.. hi there. I'm new to the community. I've been multiple for a long time, I've known about it for 3 years, and it has been only 15 days I can put a word on what I DO ACTUALLY have. MPD or DID doesn't sound too good when you know the definition of the disorders.
There's only someone else in my system. Same gender ( both of us are girls in a girl body, that helps), about same age, same specie, same tastes, but different behaviour and different thinking. Her name is Jessica. You can use my username to call me.
I've read about multiplicity, but I still have some questions.

First: what is a trigger?
Second: you've noticed I don't speak first person plural, that's because I am the only one "fronting" 99,9% of the time, and also because I'm aware of myself and of the other one, while she's not really( she discovered not so long ago she wasn't alone in this body, while I had known for a long time she was here)... you do the maths: she's still a bit freaked out. Has this ever happened to you?
Third( the last one for today, I promise): we don't like each other too much( but I can't imagine living without her, as she's kinda living through my actings). Are you "friend" with everyone in your system, or does this kind of thing happens?


There's more, but I don't feel like asking about the rest now.
I'm greeting everyone from everyone's system! Alas, I don't think you should expect a comment from Jessica.

Comments

[linnai.livejournal.com]

Not only are we not all friends, some of us don't even LIKE one another.

But some of us do. It depends. Every person, and system, is different.

Bit of a different sitch frm yours but basically, yes. Freaking out when things stepped out of the proverbial closet was something we had.

Trigger is a word or phrase or a description or whatever, that might set off negative reations. Like if you're claustrophobic, your 'trigger' would be being in an enclosed space or whatever.

Welcome. Both of you, whether or not she comments much.

Plures, Dream

[luwana.livejournal.com]

1) A trigger can be anything. I have a trigger, namely, tangy cheese doritos. When i first tasted them I swear it felt like I was *transported* to Florida... Because I had had food that tasted the same there XD

In multiple communities, it's generally used referring to a negative trigger. Something that causes flashbacks or ill feeling, typically trauma related.


2) It's cool, I use 'I' a lot. If I is appropriate, then cool. It happens.


3) Selene used to hate me XD Now she kinda reluctantly likes me :)

[linnai.livejournal.com]

(totally OK)

Where is your icon from?

[luwana.livejournal.com]

House M.D.! :D Ok so I think it's editted, but still, House! Less than three.

[linnai.livejournal.com]

Hee! Thank you! I roommate really loves House, and I wanted to tell her about your icon -grins-

[dark-musashi.livejournal.com]

Okay, thanx. I got the feeling that most of you managed to be in good terms with the whole system when reading the previous posts. XD

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

The word 'trigger' used to specifically be used to mean something that evoked memories/flashbacks of traumatic events-- say, if someone was wearing the same kind of aftershave as someone who attacked you. It seems to have entered a broader use in recovery and self-injury communities, to mean anything that evokes a negative emotion. (This seems to be based on a premise that all negative feelings are the result of unresolved past issues or traumas.)

It is certainly possible to not know there are others in your body. In fact that's the situation described in some of the 'MPD/DID literature,' although usually it's the 'host' or main fronter who supposedly knew nothing about the others.

Most of our life we have seen each other as friends and allies, but we've had some tensions in here resulting from the fact that when we first started to communicate with each other again (after years of suppressed communication because we were afraid of 'going crazy'), the 'main' fronter (at the time) became something of a dictator without realising it, controlling others in ways they resented.

[poohcrew.livejournal.com]

There use to be a handful of people in here who were uuhhh not so nice really. They caused a lot of problems and hurt other people in the system. They are for the most part not here anymore, some died and some went away. So now we all mostly get along, some better than others, but it wasnt always that way.
~us

[lgrau.livejournal.com]

Welcome, both of you. (:

For the second, it's happened to me, yes - but only with one of the other guys, considering how she made her entrance. As for pronouns, I'll use first-person when there's one of "us" making most of the conversation, "we" when there's a substantial number of us contributing to the writing, although "we" is also used when there's one or two of us speaking for the group, as such.

And for the third, we mostly get along, although there's a couple of us who manage to disagree a lot. We figure that having huge arguments isn't very helpful, considering how we have to live together, so we try to sort things out fairly quickly. Not being Best Buddies with everyone isn't something to panic about, tho'.

-L.

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

I'm sure I could quite happily live without one of the girls here. Unfortunately not everyone sees it the same way, and I don't mention anything so as not to make ripples.

[jadedmosaic.livejournal.com]

I actully feel the same way about a few we dont get along but they dont get me but we totally need each other and we think thats what's causes the strife. For the longest time sunshine was a trigger because the birthling was molested and left out in the sun to burn and get sun stroke we never understood why she freaked out on sunny days and did better on dim days fortunatly we live in mostly a overcast area while she worked on her issues.

Triggers can come in word form, witten word form, so some forums make ya leave out trigger material out by covering words with **** but honestly since a trigger can be almost anything to anyone that would be difficult. Obviously if your a incest survivor certain common talking about abuse might be a trigger. Ive found the more we are around triggers in a behavioral way we are resenitising are body to be ok with stuff.
Thnx Peace Elaine and Serinna

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

We know a system that was quite triggered by mention of feet, so we referred to them as cabbages. It was quite amusing in some ways, and definitely confused people who didn't understand why.

[changelyng14.livejournal.com]

First: what is a trigger?

multiple definitions. in therapy/psychology, its something that 'triggers' a strong (negative) reaction on you, like, the smell of smoke causes you to go into a panic (maybe because someone used to abuse you that smoked or something).

but alot of multiples use it to describe events that cause involuntary 'switching' of whose in control.

Second: you've noticed I don't speak first person plural, that's because I am the only one "fronting" 99,9% of the time, and also because I'm aware of myself and of the other one, while she's not really( she discovered not so long ago she wasn't alone in this body, while I had known for a long time she was here)... you do the maths: she's still a bit freaked out. Has this ever happened to you?

not sure i understand, but it sounds typical.

Third( the last one for today, I promise): we don't like each other too much( but I can't imagine living without her, as she's kinda living through my actings). Are you "friend" with everyone in your system, or does this kind of thing happens?

we work together, and we respect each other. we try not to sabotage each other too much. 'like'ing everyone is here and there. I once went to 'head war' with one of the people i probabaly like best, i try to work with people id rather strangle.

-Candy

[littlebus.livejournal.com]

what is a trigger?

We mainly use it as a word for a thing that is more likely to bring one or the other to the front.

One of Annabelle's triggers is the song "I Feel Pretty" from West Side Story. When she hears it it kind of grabs her attention and she tends to pop up. Yesterday Ash and I were talking and "I Feel Pretty" came on, but Ash was thinking about the version Jack Nicholson sings (part of a comedy sketch, I assume) and Jack is not the same as a cute young Maria. So Ash stayed up.

(I live with Ash & Annabelle, as in "we share an apartment")