Relationships, SO's, and Sexuality

[http://users.livejournal.com/_zephyra_/]

This is a topic that has caused me some stress in the past, so I figured I'd ask about it here...

Have (m)any of you had to deal with conflicting relationship/sexual needs of your insiders?

(I'm the main person in here, and I'm a straight female in a female body. Two others inside are straight females, and the third is bi and into all sorts of kinks. We've managed to work out a compromise (in theory) that this body won't be with another female, but that we can each negotiate open relationships with the (male) people we care for. The deal has been in place for a while now, but we are only *now* starting to venture into each having our own relationships, so I no indication on if this is really going to work or not. (What kinks we will allow the forth to do with this body is/are also still being debated))

Thanks for your time...

Comments

Re: heh

[precisegirl.livejournal.com]

I feel like I should add to that somehow. I don't know, it's never really been a problem as far as what gender people we're dating are because so many of us are bi and don't care. Or, you know, *enjoy* people's genders but don't require a certain one :-) Mostly as far as sexual expression and negotiation of that has gone, it's been about the sort of issues with specific decisions people are making, not so much what kinky things to engage in ;-) I suppose if we were to articulate the general rule of thumb around that it would be "before you do something, feel around and make sure nobody else who's out is uncomfortable with it, and don't do anything that endangers anyone."

Re: heh

[http://users.livejournal.com/_zephyra_/]

Part of the ground rules on not being with women comes from the fact that while the others come and go, I see everything even when I'm not fronting.


My fourth is interested in blood-sports, piercings, group sex, and.. erm.. animals... among other things.
*Shudder*

Re: heh

[precisegirl.livejournal.com]

sounds like a good reason for those rules :)