Introductory Post

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

This is the first time we have posted and it is a huge freaking leap of faith for us. We usually don't like to talk to people because they think we're odd. There are three of us, not counting the host. But one of us wants to write now.
Hi. I is Addee. I is four years old and likes to jump priddy ropes. Does any of you peoples wanna play with me? I want more kidses who is my age to play with. I don't likes most Big Peoples cause they's all scary and treats us kidses like we is supid. Why does all dults thinks kids is supid? Addee no unerstand. I's sorry I can't type all priddy but this thing is all funny. It is bigger than the other thing she writes on, a laptop I tink she callded it. I likes it cause it is liddler than this. I's gonna go. Bye-bye.
There ya go. Comment on that if you wish. Also, I had a bad therapist story. I made the mistake of telling her about them and she put me on this antisychotic called geodone. Only problem is that it made me have a really bad allergic reaction. Also she said I was sick for wanting to keep them. I am blind and she wanted to read my journal. I brought my assistive technology device and she asked me if "Things were gonna pop out of it." Have any of you had bad therapist stories. If so, enlighten me. I think it was my t that needed the treatment and not me.

Comments

[wylddelirium.livejournal.com]

I had to learn the hard way that there are a LOT of therapists out there, and there's a difference between a "bad" therapist and one that really challenges you to make positive effects in your life.

I don't think a knee jerk reaction to "it's sick that you want to keep your multiples" makes a "bad therapist". If you're inable to function in normal society without explaining your system to all and sundry, then maybe you need to deal with that. I'm not saying this is true for you, but it is for some.

I once had a therapist tell me I was a sinner and going to hell for choices I had made in my life. This wasn't religious based charity therapy either - it was part of a government program. She told other people in the program to stay away from me, that I was unclean. She also pulled me in for a "chat" because I had brought in a pagan almanac and was discussing astrology in the dayroom - she said I was "triggering people with latent Satanic abuse memories." This was a blatant attempt to ostracize me more, and when I explained to people that I wasn't allowed to talk about astrology anymore, they all balked and said she was crazy; I mean, there are horoscopes in the newspaper!

To me, that was bad therapy.

[idianshire.livejournal.com]

I had to learn the hard way that there are a LOT of therapists out there, and there's a difference between a "bad" therapist and one that really challenges you to make positive effects in your life.


I remember the woman from MAH saying my therapist was bad, and he was just revictimising me and I needed to leave. This was because he said to me that he believed that I would have to live with the effects of my life/childhood, that I would never get to the point when it wasn't there, when I would be "cured". Recovery for me would be learning to deal with those effects, that would be lessened in their force, but still present. He said I could have a great and fulfilling life but that stuff would be a part of it. Seems a therapist is bad if they don't tell you everything will go away, I never really gort it. But then I really like my therapist, he's rough around the edges, rude and pokes me with big sticks (figuarative ones). He also says that we are wird, and always will be, but somehow the way he talks about our weirdness isn't rude or insulitng, it's kinda like a compliment.

My neighbour sort of friend, she goes to a therapist that seems to do little more than hold her hand, but that is what she needs, she needs time to be special, to be comforted, and her therapist gives her that. Personally that would drive me insane and I won't last a session, but I also know if my neighbour went to my therapist she woudl think she had the worst, attackign therapist.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

The idea that everything will go away and that you can get to a point where it will never affect you -- that's 20th century new age rot. Childhood always affects us, for good or ill, as do all the experiences we have in life. What we do with those experiences and the choices we make based on those experiences -- that, we can decide, we can control. Trying to block out the effects of your past and childhood is only denial -- it is not health, and it is not a cure for anything. This is not a matter of abreactions and processing; it is how it affects you in daily life.

There are people like baseball manager Joe Torre and actor Danny DeVito, who publicise child abuse awareness and try to give opportunities to abused and neglected children because they remember what their fathers did to them. There are parents like Truddi Chase who go out of their way to give their children all the love they never had.

But it can be much more subtle than that. Allowing one's past to become a part of one's life can become the leaf mould of creativity. Look at Tolkien -- how the loss of his mother and his idyllic childhood home led to the creation of a mythology that was named the greatest 20th cenntury work of English literature.

That sucks

[(Anonymous)]

That is bad therapy. LOL! I have nothing to bitch about. But my bad story doesn't matter now. I'm out of thatstuff now. My roo

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

I am an adult and I have never thought children were stupid, having been one my own self.

(I must say you are the first young lady I have seen in the earth world to use "I'se" in some time; my cousin Anna, age two, does that.)

[luwana.livejournal.com]

Kids aren't stupid, they are different. Littles are *definately* not stupid, though they often try to act like they are.

Our stories are thankfully mediocre. Therapists not believing us, and so thinking I make it up or am deluded.

Tanks

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Addee is dancing and smiling because some one actually answered her. She's practically doing sommersaults. She says hi and she likes you and that she would give you a lollipop and a picture if she could. I'm just learning to post comments. Go me!!!

Re: Tanks

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

If she would like to do a picture and scan it and upload it to your website, then she could post a link to it here and we all could see it.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

There ya go. Comment on that if you wish. Also, I had a bad therapist story. I made the mistake of telling her about them and she put me on this antisychotic called geodone.

This is becoming the norm for dealing with multiples in some places, rather than the exception.

Having been thoroughly embarassed by the scandals and overdiagnoses of the 80s and 90s, the mental health industry is trying to put the lid on multiplicity all over again (the first time they did it was early in the 20th century). Clients who self-disclose as multiple are being diagnosed as psychotic and/or put on antipsychotics in increasing numbers. Antipsychotics frequently have a side effect, in multiples, of inhibiting or even destroying in-system communication altogether; this is probably the reason behind their being given to you, because few people are interested any more in working with the system, and finding solutions to memory and communication problems (if any). The patient is considered to be cured "when the voices stop" (that is, when they can no longer communicate with the others).

Are you still on Geodon? Are you still seeing her?

We did self-disclose to a therapist once, because we were experiencing some anxiety problems and wanted to see if we could get the doctor to address those as the problem rather than focusing on the multiplicity. The problem was that she seemed a lot more interested in how our system worked and the fact that it worked at all than in anything else, and kept getting hung up on seeing everyone as parts of an original, rather than people in their own right. Most of our really bad therapy experiences have involved doctors wanting to fix everything with drugs, even if they didn't know we were multiple.