functionality, next step!

[changelyng14.livejournal.com]

So quite a while ago, we 'came out' to each other, learned how to front independently, had some major coping issues at first. one problem our natural communication method caused (we access each others memories) is we had memories of being someone that could do things that we couldn't necessarily do. for example, Tia 'remembered' knowing calculus, and remembered doing very well on calc quizzes, but under the new rules, she'd go to class, feel good, put pen to paper, and have no clue what she was doing. we have this problem all over the place with programming, teching (our major/profession) and such.

well when we figured out this was the way of things, we took a major slowdown, got on disability, and took some time getting used to our new rules.
in like, march we got out of that, and started working a pretty easy job that any of us could handle. steering clear of anything technical or stressful for a while. (we've actually been a bit more responsible then we were before, since we seem to have licked depression pretty solidly)

well were alot more practiced at this teamwork stuff, we've pulled off a shareware project or two, and were ready to see if we put our new controlled switching skilz to the test. (that and financial aid thinks its time to either take a class or start paying our loan) so viola! we start our first day of class tomorrow.

weve heard some advice about getting an overlay'ey thing working for crossing skills, but we just don't mix well at all. so our approach is to get myself (candy), lovecry, and synch (if he bothers to get involved) each independantly solid on the material. and Tia switching out, since she suuux at math, but defaces easily enough.

anyways, if anyones got any spiffy advice, please please. otherwise, wish us luck! Im personally pretty amped about it! wooo!

Candy Apple Red of the Changelyng System

Comments

[gryphons.livejournal.com]

first, Good luck and Congrats..

Second, umm.. this is what helped us .. Your mileage may vary.. Get a dayplanner and keep it with you ALL the time jot down assignments/study group meetings/ and make sure to set aside time for relaxation.. they're annoying but they saved our rears more than we'd like to think about..
at least for us.. it helped getting registered with disability services on campus.. it allowed us to get registered for classes first and have special times to take exams.. but there are pros and cons to this..
umm.. oh yeah.. and take a journal with you..they're good to jot stuff down in that may come up during class.. just what helped us..

[ex-nanonyan.livejournal.com]

It's really hard, because one has to reteach themselves how to *think*, but it is possible to use the memory/thought transfer communication method as a way to convey knowledge. It just takes a lot of practice to learn to become specific. ^^; Also, retention is a pain. However, everyone was able to teach each other to drive somewhat decently, so it can't be that bad, right? Grr, I wish I could explain. x.x Not easy to.

This was done in limited ways a while ago when Niuko, a financial expert among other things, was trying to make us some money through investments, and I had to learn the basics. I learned enough to figure out how to monitor stock prices and stuff, and knew when to ring tehs internal warning sirens. ^^;

BTW, what's that LJ icon? It's pretty. *_*

[shatterstorm.livejournal.com]

A calendar/dayplanner/etc is a wonderful thing - it lets you keep track of commitments and leave notes for one another. Plenty of singletons do this too, so it is pretty much invisible in mainstream culture.

We've got a rule that our kids always have an adult within easy reach for questions or assistance. If you've got kids (or others you want to offer a little protection to) insystem, you all might want to talk about something like that.

Some of our people can "summon" up someone else to the front at will - it is a really useful knack when you have people with specific skills. We'll also sometimes use "bait" to get someone's attention (tasks, music, food, toys that they like.)

A system we know says "I'm sorry. I'm having a blond moment!" when they can't get who they need to the front. We kept a lot of lists and notes at our last software job. Whiteboards are your friend. :) Another good line is "Let me wrap this up, and I'll come talk with you about X."

We found our depression issues pretty much gone when we started communicating better too. I wonder how common that is?

[iamshadow.livejournal.com]

I think anyone - singlets or multiples - will be healthier mentally when their lives are flowing more smoothly, and they feel they're doing well.

I know for me, that was the case. When the real world was a bit more under control, the anxiety, sleep problems, moments of mania and depression lessened or stopped.

The 'bait' idea is also referred to sometimes as a 'hook'. It's a controlled way of pulling someone out front (as opposed to a 'trigger', which is generally uncontrolled). 'Hooks' have been talked about before as being used for getting kids out - using sweets, icecream, cartoons or crayons.

But equally (or sometimes superior) hooks can be music, clothing or perfume, depending on who you're trying to get. All five senses can be utilised to 'hook' someone to the front, and when you know better people's likes, it's easier to do.