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I'm getting mad because Kyra keeps trying to control me and make me think things that aren't true because then she can get her own way. I have my own space for deep, deep secrets but I have to keep a close eye on that and exhibit a lot of willpower to keep it locked up, she is a very strong part of us and everybody finds it difficult to keep things hidden from her (if they want to that is) because she seems to be able to just enter other people's space and see our thoughts and memories. We can stop her if we concentrate and put up a lot of force..but sometimes she messes with dreams and stuff and just generally behaves in manner which we do not find acceptable.
Has anybody else had problems like this? Or at least found that some people are stronger in your system than others or have more internal control? Can any of the members of your system get inside other's minds and see what they are thinking etc? Or are they very separate?
*Asha*
Has anybody else had problems like this? Or at least found that some people are stronger in your system than others or have more internal control? Can any of the members of your system get inside other's minds and see what they are thinking etc? Or are they very separate?
*Asha*
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Date: 2005-07-25 01:19 am (UTC)Telepathically reaching inside another's mind and doing the kind of manipulation you describe is a violation of privacy, which is considered extremely unethical on our world. A person who did such a thing (assuming that it were possible, which I'm not at all sure) would lose honour. However, I wonder about Kyra's motives. Is she doing it out of pure selfishness, or because she dislikes the rest of you, or is she trying in some way to be helpful? Andy
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Date: 2005-07-25 08:50 pm (UTC)Spiritxx
Oops
Date: 2005-07-25 08:52 pm (UTC)Spiritxx (the ditz)
Re: Oops
Date: 2005-07-26 02:34 pm (UTC)Understanding what motivates her will make it a lot easier for you to work with her instead of fighting with her.
As an example, she may think that friend is bad for you and be trying to protect you. Listening to her objections may make it easier for her to acknowledge that who you choose as friends is your choice, not hers.
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Date: 2005-07-26 06:44 pm (UTC)Ugh, I am sick of that child.
Moonshine
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Date: 2005-07-26 06:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-07-27 06:15 pm (UTC)so why's she want you all to have no friends? is she afraid they'll hurt you, or that you'll hurt them, or that they won't want to be near you when they know you all better, or that if you have other friends no one will care about her, or ???
and what does she want besides keeping other people away? any interest in clothes or music or movies or ???
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Date: 2005-07-27 08:46 pm (UTC)Is there any such thing as a truly bad person? If so then I think we have found one. We have considered more drastic measures because the young ones get upset by her and she is beginning to make us feel that she is not worth the hassle. She does it with all sorts, not just friends - when the TV breaks she tries to stir up *anger* in the emotion box... When anybody has an (internal) conflict she causes trouble, when our daughter cries she tries to create resentment..the list goes on.
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Date: 2005-07-27 10:08 am (UTC)Have you asked her what her motives are -- what it is she wants?
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Date: 2005-07-25 04:42 am (UTC)We also have some who have edited another's memories, although it was agreed to before the editing. This was done for the safety of our group - it was decided that someone had to be able to function as if "everything is fine" and she got the job.
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Date: 2005-07-26 02:07 am (UTC)I seem to have the body-override, and often have to purpousefully step back to allow others to front. I usually can't hear their thoughts unless they're making an effort in my direction, and I suspect they don't hear nearly all of mine. It's easier to communicate when we're co-fronting than when only one person is out.