Contracts

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

This week, I have to somehow get everyone in the entire system to sign a no-harm contract.

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Aside from the whole HOW am I going to do that (it's gonna involve a lot of ass-kicking I think), I'm kinda.. nervous. I don't think I really want to see how many signatures end up on it at the end. We have 16 at the mo, and that's just front group.

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[hairymonster.livejournal.com]

I know its hard, but its also kinda important.

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

Hell yes. ha. Y'nno, Phil keeps asking me if I'm still taking my meds. And reminding me not to take too many. You think he doesn't trust me? :)

[hairymonster.livejournal.com]

Francis:
Well yea, wez like useless at tha to. mind yous when we donts uz hands turns blue and we falls over. so uz donts really get away witd it.

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

Haha we're not that bad. There was one time I accidentally took too many pills though and we were sick for two or three days after. Yuck yuck yuck. Now we all have to be pretty careful with them.

[ex-kiota.livejournal.com]

I'm kind of curious about that... isn't that kind of dangerous? I mean... do you designate one person to take the meds? Otherwise everyone takes them at different times, not realizing someone else already took them...

[shatterstorm.livejournal.com]

We picked up one of those little "pills for the week" containers. We check it before bed (when we're supposed to take them) and if you're the one prepping for the night, you go and check the pillbox. We've also made a bribe - after taking the pills there is always a little bit of chocolate. Really motivates the kids. :)

None of our medications are sensitive - we can miss a day without trouble. We'd be more careful if that was the case. Probably put them on the nightstand with a little digital date-clock to check the day with.

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

We take ours when we get up, and I'm the one who usually sleeps. So I usually take them, I grab them as soon as I get out of bed and have them with breakfast. The sleeping pills though, no one is allowed to take without Jessiah's permission anymore, coz I screwed up. heh.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

It's good that you were able to get the contract worked out if it's something the system needs. Maybe you should try to think of it in the sense that the more people you can get to agree to it, frontrunners or not, the easier a time you'll have of keeping to it?

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

Yes, that's exactly what we're trying to remember. We've sent a message to the groups we do know of asking them to send people to the front to sign, and so far it seems to be working...

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Would something like the In Essence Pledge be helpful?

(Short version here:
http://www.livejournal.com/users/echoesnspectres/)

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

We do have the actual contract text written. The problem is convincing those that pose the most threat to sign it. So far we have all of front group written down, and some others, including names we don't recognise. Dat was amused at someone signing as "alias (aka)", and we've also discovered that Kitty Miaou's real name is Katherine.

[shatterstorm.livejournal.com]

We did a lot of talking with those of us who weren't willing to agree to a no-harm deal. Understanding what was motivating them *and those who were assisting them* did wonders.

One of ours was deliberately getting us sick whenever she didn't want us to go somewhere. Turns out she was doing it so we wouldn't go to events that were upsetting to some of our kids. The other people up front weren't listening so she took things into her own hands.

Another will scratch the body until it bleeds if she gets enough of the front. Serious self-loathing. We're doing a lot of counseling with her and it seems to be helping.

[eridanusus.livejournal.com]

*nod* The specific ones we were having problems with, Cathy and Ness, were angry at us for telling people about us, and some of the details of crap that happened. We're trying to show them that our friends, especially our two best friend-systems, have been helping us and it's safe to tell people, and hopefully they'll understand and sign the contract to help keep the system safe.

[shatterstorm.livejournal.com]

If they'll talk, work with them on acceptable alternative actions. The gal getting us sick rarely resorts to that anymore because we've been learning to listen. Every now and then we blow it, and she gets us sick and delights in reminding us how if we'd listened we wouldn't be sick. and that is sooo annoying! but very effective. ;)