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[dream-trauma.livejournal.com]

Hello. First time poster here~ .

I'm currently "trapped" inside a female body, located in northern europe. Have been for many years now and I still find it disturbing when I'm in the mood.
The assumed core personality didn't want to hear me -or the others, or feel our presence for a long time. Until finally last autumn, she had an awakening of somesort.
Currently there are four others here with me. Hora which is me, Hitsugi, Nao, Cecilie and "the host".


Can it be, that we -others than her, are making the core personality dissapear, without even knowing it?
I'm worried for her nowadays. She gives me more and more front time and doesn't want to come out anymore.
Not even close to what she used to be like.
These days there has to be either me or Hitsugi in the front with her, to keep her act together.
Should I just firmly say no and that way almost force her to front?
Wouldn't that be cruel?
She seems to only be fractions of what she used to be.

Thank you for your time and nice to meet you all.
Yours, Hora.

Comments

[ex-kiota.livejournal.com]

Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe she's finding outside life difficult and wants an escape.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

I can speak only from our own experience, but it turned out that for us, what we had thought was a core person was actually kind of an agglomeration of several other people and/or their personality traits. That had been our presenting face to the world for a long while, and the reason we found it difficult to keep up after we started communicating was because it turned out this presenting self wasn't actually a person per se. It also turned out that what we'd had pegged as some of 'her' personality traits were other people's which had been grafted on because they were useful.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Maybe she needs a "vacation"? Some people here who used to front a lot now hardly ever do.

[shatterstorm.livejournal.com]

The one who had been our front for many years still exists, but she rarely fronts anymore. Her force of personality is much milder than many others, and she's shown little interest in being up front since we learned to communicate better among ourselves.

We've had personalities that 'disappear' - sometimes they merge with others, sometimes they just... complete whatever they were here for and dissolve away.

But do talk with her - she may be depressed, or feel confused or trapped herself...

[changelyng14.livejournal.com]

there may or may not be a common trend among a category of personalities that may or may not be called 'faces'.

I'm sure individual results may vary but a number of my irl split-friends have experienced problems with their 'main fronters' when that person comes to grips with the fact that there is a 'cast' behind them.

'faces' may or may not, in general, have been, at some young point, given the task of being 'normal', and dealing with the world, and may or may not also share other tendencies, for example, being extremely likeable people (as opposed to say, assholes). they also may or may not have believed correctly or incorrectly that they are the original people, or that its their head with the voices in it. they also may or may not have been denied the knowledge of their system to help them beleive they are 'normal'.

and while a system coming to terms with being split, while the whole system may or may not find it exciting and liberating, the said 'face' may or may not find it distressing and disturbing.

our system is predominantly a collection of 'retired' faces. when we learned how to tell ourselves apart from each other, our latest face (lovecry) didn't take it so well, and is trying to retire. a system i will call 20-something, had a self-discovery. their 'face' broke down and went physically suicidal, and was basically taken down by her system and was caged. a system i will call '3' never spoke of their condition until i told him of mine one day. their face continues happily and in tact, although he tends to seem a bit uncomfortable getting our of 'singlett' mode, and into talking about split stuff, while his other 2 have little hesitation.

listening to your question makes me think of these people and based on my limited experience... there are some very potential hazards to be aware of and watchful of. if your person complains of feeling 'useless' be sure they hear from you that they a) aren't useless, and b) why.

but yeah, for you all to get more front time, your person will have to take less front time. thats just basic math. our guy has more or less, learned to enjoy life more watching us live it. he likes what ppl are trying to do. its working so far, but he's a depressive, and we DO check in on him to be sure he's doing ok.

good luck
Synch of the Changelyng

Melinda and fronting

[reinahada.livejournal.com]

Melinda used to front all the time. But she finally flaked out so bad that she can't front anymore. But she's the head of our ssytem. And she is damn good at what she does - as long as it does not involve interacting with the otuside world. But a lot of us, more and more of us in fact, are having trouble with that. We're tyring to get a handle on it and we may actually be getting better, maybe. Of coruse that is because we almost never leave the house anymroe. we like it pretty well that way.

distraida