what the kids know

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I put this comment in reply to a question someone had asked after my really long post. I thought it might get more responses if I posted it as a separate thread. :)

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No, my daughter doesn't know that I'm multiple. I've had custody issues with her father and it's not something that I would want thrown into that mix. While I am not entirely stable I am responsible and I think I do my best to be a good mother to V.

I think she does know that at different times she speaks to different parts of me. For instance she is more likely to call Mandala "Rachel" or "Mother" than "Mamma" or "Mommie". She is generally more tender towards Bethie and/or rachel and demands more hugs and kisses from them.

I think that when she gets to an age to understand more clearly what I'm talking about I will explain it to her. Also as the situation with her father grows more and more supportive and understanding, less confrontational, that helps too.

Right now, it doesn't feel safe. :(

That is hard because I'd prefer to just be myselves with her.

Does anyone else have any input on this?