here i am...

[chaostiny.livejournal.com]

It's been a while since i have been in an online community for multiples. i quit for a while... shut down on everything except what was in my head... its been a crazy 2 years or so... I swear i recognize some names... possibly holdovers from other forums? my two handles have been chaostiny and zipkidz... If you remember me and wanna say hi I would welcome it:) if not...hey... my memories aren't exactly straight all the time!:)
I am training my therapist... argh... its the third one! But, he is getting it... and so its worth it.
Acupuncture... try it;)
It has been a lifesaver for me for body pains, present or past type, (my acupuncurist knows I am mulitple and very sensitive... he is amazing!) Also headaches, backpain... and even insomnia and depression... and honestly, it doesnt hurt!
I have been dealing with a friend who decided she was multiple after meeting me... argh. I don't even tell her anything and she still manages to imitate me... at one point in october when i was in the hospital, she checked in! AAAAHHHH!!!
As for me... I am trying NOT to be suicidal... trying to get through the mess in my head today. Tomorrow I will tackle the mess for tomorrow... it changes every day so I can't get a grasp on any of it! Oh well... I know eventually things will get different...
Thanks for being here
Alex

Comments

[jinxtigr.livejournal.com]

I love hearing about the 'I am training my therapist'! Tir_nan_og and I are in the same position and stressing out about it dreadfully. Nothing I haven't done in my own way with my own, of course. You gotta train them or they poop on your mental carpets :)
I'd love to hear more about tricks and techniques and ways of getting the idea across. For instance, me being 'furry' (hence the icon), I have repeatedly had to train therapists to be furry-friendly despite the fact there is (or was) a psychosis in DSM about lycanthropy (if I remember correctly?). What I always do is hammer the 'this is my personal metaphor to help me like myself better the way I am' idea, and I'm real stubborn about 'no, that is not a problem. It's the best part of me. I hated myself when I viewed myself as a grossly defective human. I make a very good cat, though, and I like cats...' and I work on stuff in the context of 'okay, how would you get a big only-semi-domesticated cat who's been feral in the past, through this?' Not always as baldly as that, but it's pretty deeply a part of my self-image if I want to thrive.
What do you do in the multiplicity context? Stuff like, 'Now slow down a bit- if you have a single-person who is depressed or troubled, do you suggest they commit suicide so the troubled part is disposed of, or do you work with them and try to heal the troubledness without killing their single personality?' That would be a strong statement, no?

[ex-khailitha846.livejournal.com]

Hey there,

Training the therapist, eh? I had good luck with only one therapist. He had a totally open mind and was willing to listen to my system. I think he had a very Rogerian approach. (Carl Rogers is a psychologist who was largely ignored for expressing his theory of "humanistic" psychology - a concept that basically said if you help someone feel safe and accepted, they'll work out their own shit in their own way at their time. Duh.)

Anyhoo, good luck wit dat.

And acupuncture? I know! It is one the best treatments We get. Also helpful have been massage therapy and something called "network chiropractic" which, even though it's called chiro is really energy work. Way powerful energy work.

Nice to see you here... when I was craziest the short term approach worked, sounds like you're already doing it. The "I can make through the moment I am in if I don't think about the next one coming" dynamic.

Things do get better.

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

Hi! You're still on our website with your comments on The William Greene Story.

http://www.astraeasweb.net/plural/review.html

Our rolfer knew we were plural, too. Wouldn't have gone to him if he hadn't been open to our coming out.

therapist training

[chaostiny.livejournal.com]

The most important thing a therapist needs to do is this... "suspend disbelief" the second is this "meet the client where they are at" Meaning... if you say you have are a cat, then the therapist has no need to question it in the context of being multiple. I have a dragon among other creatures and my therapist and I joke constantly about my service dog being a snack for her:)
As far as the whole basic multiplicity thing... we have taken a road of allowing each part to heal on their own... meaning they can do whatever they need to get better... we are a family of hurt individuals... so our therapist gets alot of calls from alot of us... we sometimes have to split up our appointments so different ones can come out and do some therapy... we also work within ourselves.. we "therapize" each other... If we can train a therapist, we can take greater responsibility in our healing... we can deal with it

bill greene

[chaostiny.livejournal.com]

well... just an update on that case... he did get a new trial... and same as the first his MPD was not allowable as evidence and his therapist couldn't be a witness for the defense so... according to the 3rd strike rule (first two offenses were drug possesion charges) he is in prison for life...
i hate the system...

Re: bill greene

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

We're sorry to hear that, and we'll put it up with the rest of the information about his case. Multiplicity defenses are not a good idea anyway. They're a variant on the insanity defense, which has been so misused that many courts no longer take it seriously. Most states don't yet allow a "Guilty But Mentally Ill" verdict. Sigh.

[shadowechoes.livejournal.com]

We haven't even begun to tell Our therapist about being theriantropes yet. I doubt We ever will - she doesn't seem like the type that would take it seriously. We doubt if she even takes Our multiplicity seriously so..

~Rhydan

[shadowechoes.livejournal.com]

Hi and welcome :)

I think there's nothing more annoying that poser-multiples. After I came out to my friends, quite a few of them started claiming to be multiple too. (I guess that's what I get for hanging around role-players *laughs at herself, since she's a "role-player" too* Anyway, when I told them that the "personas" I had been using as characters were really members of my inner system, they claimed the same thing about their characters. e.e Made me lose respect for a bunch of them, and at this point I really don't have any contact with them.)

~Rhydan

[chaostiny.livejournal.com]

Something I have noticed about those that are faking it... they don't tend to get better... since they are creating their own problem and are using it for attention generally... I had a friend that after she finally admitted to me and her therapist that she wasn't multiple, she was diagnosed as borderline and started therapy for that and is now the picture of wonderful mental health! Amazing isn't it! I know that getting "better" when you are a multiple is a totally different concept that most other kinds of therapy. I do alot of my own healing at home because it isn't something that therapy can really help me with.. you can't treat DID from a college level psychology book!!
I also dropped a couple of poser multiples from my friend list... My life got a lot less chaotic really quick.. and I started finding people who were healthy or at least trying to get there!!