Regarding multiplicity, its trolls (?), and everyone else who claims to 'suffer' from it.

[clsa.livejournal.com]

Some times I feel like there will be a moment where everyone will collectively crack a wide smile and bow, going "Tadaa! We're not really strange after all, but we sure had you fooled, yeah?" and I'll be the only one left, with that everlasting feeling as though I've somehow missed the bigger picture and brought this all upon myself.

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[netdancer.livejournal.com]

Hee. We don't so much suffer from multiplicity as revel in it. I mean, we're unique! :) And if I can't decide what to have for lunch, someone can. And there's always someone to talk to.

Alas, our collective fashion sense? Made of pure FAIL. I don't know why, either. but there's no one here who can do up a wardrobe.

[overlord-mordax.livejournal.com]

I know that feeling. Like everyone else is in on some bigger joke about it, and you didn't get the memo.

-David

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

What prompted this, just out of curiosity? I haven't seen anyone trolling the community recently.

[clsa.livejournal.com]

Not specifically the community alone, but pretty much everywhere. Multiplicity and dissociative identity disorder and plurality and however people wish to call it seems... almost like 'the new gay', lately.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

I've heard several people state before that they believe it's trendy, but honestly multiplicity-as-trendy-meme really only seems to go around in relatively small and limited social circles, in my experience.

Actually it was much worse in the late 80s and early 90s, when the diagnosis itself was super-trendy and therapists wanted to see it everywhere because they thought it was prestigious and exciting to have multiples in therapy.

Although, admittedly, I'd rather see people claim to be multiple in a functional way because they think it's "cool" than get attached to a pathologized label because they think that's "cool." Not that it's ever fun to see people me-tooing about some aspect of your life and making it look like it's a frivolous phase for everyone, but at least most of the trendy-multis I've seen recently aren't the kind who go around doing things to harm others or themselves and insist that they can't be criticized for it because they have a disorder.

[withfangs.livejournal.com]

This happened to us, actually. A big group of girls that we used to RP with suddenly all decided that their muses were real. We tried to grit our teeth and get through it silently, but they were so off (and using like, Astraea's site and other plurality recources completely incorrectly) that we eventually just bit it and told them.

Which turned out to be the bigger mistake b/c then it was our group who looked like we were "me tooing". I don't do well with people who try to shove me into a little box, so I pretty much blew them off of the face of the planet. And lo and behold, almost none of them have any trace of plurality anymore.

*rolls eyes*

It pisses me off. Maxim and I really struggled with this for a long time, so we tend to treat the way we interact with some form of reverence. These girls basically just wanted excuses to create drama.

And really, I still have the base reaction that soulbonders-are-crazy because of it...and I have fictionally based system members.

[withfangs.livejournal.com]

Anyone who pretends to be plural b/c they think it makes them a beautiful and unique snowflake needs to get on the compost heap with the rest of society.

[phen0type.livejournal.com]

I understand your frustration with people who say that they are plural for spurious reasons. Nevertheless, I think that it could be stated a bit differently.

Richard

[withfangs.livejournal.com]

I'm actually not frustrated. That's just how I view society in general.

[shade-durza.livejournal.com]

People who pretend will always get caught in their own lies soon enough. I pretended to be a singlet for a couple of years but failed miserably. You cannot deny what you really are without going insane and sure, it seems like plurality is the latest craze now, but in a year or so you'll who's left and that you're not the only one.

[withfangs.livejournal.com]

Exactly. We tried to be a single person and we ended up having a nervous breakdown b/c of it.

[linnai.livejournal.com]

Exactly.

[inmonopolus.livejournal.com]

with that everlasting feeling as though I've somehow missed the bigger picture and brought this all upon myself.

This would be a great quote for life in general, not just this sort of thing.

As to the feeling itself.. Perhaps it's the pervading social pressure that perhaps everyone else thinks you're crazy that imbues a kind of pseudo-paranoia that anyone who claims to believe you is just patronizing you or setting you up for a bigger fall.

I sorta get the feeling where certain people making claims about bonding (somewhat spuriously? Flippantly? Erroneously?) that I should somehow make up for what occasionally happens to be simple 'fangirling'. I feel like somehow my claims of who I interact with in the Coterie are more fantastic, and thus open to more automatic scrutiny, because of these other people. I've gotten "....Dracula. You're kidding, right?".

Then I remember Sybil, and things of a similar nature, and realize pre-conceived notions that may be entirely inaccurate are definitely not something only soulbonders have to worry about.

[vanna-in-middle.livejournal.com]

Hi I'm a singlet. My Mom has a group. I think I get what your frustration is. I used to think along with my sister, and our family, Mom would one day just announce..."Okay, everyone I made a mistake, I'm really just me." It never happened. Instead she/they, just became more and more private, and less trusting of us. That makes me sad always.

I have seen many tmes when it would absolutly be in her, and their best interest to say, "OOOPS, maybe this is not the case, maybe I'm just in a body alone, even when it could have helped us kids to live with them again." It never happened either,I think that is when I knew, Wow this is her and them and real. But I have met "groups", and even befriended one, and got really close, only to find they were just RP. To me, it was a sad day to find out the this girls only way to get close to me, was to pretend to be like my Mom. Maybe it was cool to her, or her insecure way of making a good friend, which I was to her. But it was the shit in the end. It has made me sucspicous of any group now, claiming to be a group outwardly.

The one thing I see over and over about My Moms group is their very private manner and how they hide bieng a group, to almost everyone even when its very noticable,and people know but a few on Lj. The times they have been 'outed' has always worked against them, with our family, and her in life freinds. So I never really understood people who fake it.

Oh I am reading "Sybil" now, wow, and I don't see how its anything like my experience of Mom and her group, or any groups I know. It seems like a sad story where Sybil's Mom was really a demented hurtful person, and the really sick one, not Sybil..But I don't know the whole book seems cheesy to me.