Me again

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

Hello everyone,

First off I would like to say Thank you to everyone who has ever helped me here, it is much appreciated.

For those who do not know who I am, or why I am here, I joined because my Fiancee is Plural, (he now is home to 12 wonderful men), and I wanted advice and knowledge.

So, once more I have come to ask a question, I hope it is one that can be answered, though it is not that difficult lmao, unless there are no resources for it :P. I just hope you all do not get tired and disgusted with me for all of my questions :D Please forgive me if I do not word this entirely correct, I suck at writing :P

My Fiancee has been admitted to the local hospital's psych ward, he was admitted on Labor Day, because of severe depression and attempts at suicide. Most if not everyone has been feeling that way. This is not my question though, it was brought up because of what happened today while he was talking to a Nurse.

He told her that he was plural and that he can see, talk and interact with the others inside him, that each of them has their own looks, personalities and so on. The nurse told him that, that was not possible, that MPD/DID does not work that way. She treated him, I guess you could say in a condescending manner and even skeptically. She made him feel bad because of it. So he has decided to not even mention it to them anymore at this facility.

Now to the question lmao. Does anyone know of a way I can find out if there is a psychiatrist in Tampa, Florida or even Gainesville area (since we are going to try to move up there) who not only accepts Medicaid, but is also familiar with Multiplicity and will treat it with respect? He would like to talk to someone about it, but not if they will treat him like he is making it all up.

He would also like to talk to other people about Multiplicity, to learn more and for general support. It would be nice if there were also support groups in the area as well, or even online too.

Thank you in advance.

BV

Comments

[krystale.livejournal.com]

Our multiplicity works very much that way. We can interact with one another. Sometimes we dance together and it helps us cooperate, which makes things easier in general. I was also hospitilized similarly, and treated similarly.

I don't know how to find someone, I wish I did. If there turns out to be a secret nationwide directory, tell us. If you ask at offices you know accept the insurance you can meet with the therapist first. It is fair for you to request an interview with someone who will get paid to treat you (or your Fiance in this case), it is a job they're doing for you after all. Some may refuse you this. Personally I figure that rules them out as my sort of people right there. Also, I recommend a therapist. My therapist told me that Psychiatrists actually are not often good for talking, they're responcible for diagnosis and prescribing treatments, often referring to a therapist.

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

I found out that he will be seeing a Therapist when he goes to Northside. Though he is seeing a shrink while in the hospital. If I ever find a nationwide directory I will be sure to let you know.

I am sorry you got treated like he did. It isn't fair. People are so close minded when they come across something they may have only read about in books or seen on TV.

It is nice to know, Mike isn't the only one. Again, Thank you.

[krystale.livejournal.com]

I ♥ your icon. Did it come from anywhere special?

And if he ever would like someone to talk to about multiplicity, we're here and this group is also a good place, I'm sure you've seen.

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

I agree this group is a good place and I will let him know. Thank you.

And the icon came from just a random search I did on Yahoo! I liked it so much I pretty much changed my lj page to match lmao. I have a thing for all things Vampire and Vampire-like :D

[inner-chatter.livejournal.com]

Our "host" might be better at answer this, but she's not doing a whole lot better than it sounds like your finacee is so I'll say what I can about this.

This is very possible and most people with D.I.D. do see us "alters" as looking different from our outside body. (I mean, do the doctors think that the children in our systems look like grown men and women? Come on!) When Leigh (our host) told our therapist she sees us inside and we all look different nd we sound different, she told her she feels crazy for it and our therapist said, "Why wouldn't they look and sound different? They're not you." We are our therapists' first multiple patient so she is having to learn as we go along, but common sense says that we wouldn't all look and sound the same. I am worry your fiancee is having to deal with such a close-minded nurse when he is in such a fragile state. :-(

We live in the panhandle so we don't know of a doctor in your area, but we wish you both the best in finding someone. And please let him know that this nurse was quite misinformed.

-Anna

[inner-chatter.livejournal.com]

Oops. Sorry about the HTML there. I'm not the computer-savvy one here. :-P

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

That's ok. I suck at HTML myself :P

I hope his new Therapist he gets to see when he goes to Northside is like yours. She sounds very open about D.I.D or at least willing to learn more about it. Whereas those at the hospital didn't seem to want to deal with it.

Thank you for your kind thoughts.

[linnai.livejournal.com]

There are quite a few places online that act as Multiplicity support groups. This place, everydaydid fragmented_minds and many others... He's welcome in those places.

About the Florida support question, I'm sorry... I couldn't answer that for you...

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the info. Are those communities only for those who have multiplicity or can family join too?

It's alright, I really didn't think there would be. It was worth a shot though. :)

Maybe I should try and start up a directory or something :D

Again, thank you.

[mornhyland.livejournal.com]

International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (http://www.isst-d.org/)

There is a find a therapist link. Think they mostly deal with trauma based dissociation and would have to talk to individuals about what insurance they accept.

Link was given by previous therapist.

[battyvamp.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much. I will check it out ASAP. :)

Nurse on psych ward

[brandon2431.livejournal.com]

Geez. We're osrry that's happening (sigh) again, to (sigh) one more multi one more time.
That nurse is full of sh************t. She doesn't know beans about multiplicity. *We* see and hear and interact with each other, see and hear and feel our inside space.....we even have inner experiences that involve physical pain, and the one going through the experience feels the pain. If that one is close to the surface, we physically get what can feel like a 'body memory', but we've learned it might or might not be that......often if there's some impending danger, one of us inside will sense it before it happens and experience something realted to it. (Wonder what his nurse would do with that.....?)
No, your fiancee has nothing to fear or feel bad about, around being multi. A lot of people in the medical community are simply ignorant....but that's on them. Good luck finding a professional who respects multiplicity (*that* will be a rare jewel!), and best of luck to both you and your fiancee, hope things start going better soon.

I've given up telling people.

[mcct.livejournal.com]

Including therapists. I have come to the conclusion that DID is so rare, and misunderstood, (and my therapists have either denied what they were seeing or just not believed me) that I have gotten the most help in 20 years here on these web sites finding and reading about others like me. I have come to the conclusion that like singles, no two plurals are alike. Our minds have broken differently in each case, it seems to me. I've only been online a few weeks, but I feel so much better.

I would encourage your boyfriend to cerf these sites. Good luck finding a therapist in Tampa.