Ponder this.

[krystale.livejournal.com]

Go nuts with the ideas, and spin off eachother's ideas if you feel inspired.

If you had a room full of singlets open and willing to learn about multiplicity what sort of hands on activities would you do to show them what it's like?

I'd like to try tying people into groups and giving them a fronting stick, only the person holding the stick is in charge.

I'm quite open with my multiplicity. Only my family doesn't accept it. I sometimes get questions about what it's like. We've been we since about three months old, so I have NO idea what their perspective would be. I'm thinking of having a gathering so we can tackle it all at once and it'll be a setting people feel comfie asking questions in, because most people feel akward asking.

So I need some ideas so I can talk the rest of us into it.


Note: Parts Cross posted from Fragmentedminds for personal reasons.

Comments

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Ooooo! Fronting-stick! I like that idea!! I really really do. It's cool. But maybe if it's a big enough group you could have a couple of fronting-sticks for co-fronters? :-) I'm not awake yet but I will most definitely return to this when the brain is awake.
Alissa

[krystale.livejournal.com]

I made a big old reply and hit some stoooopid key... I can't even remember. How am I supposed to remember an assemblage of random things shouted? ::screams::
Um... They should have to share the stick that's already there, since that's what co-fronting is (as far as I know).
I'd tell people they could wander off if they got upset by something... but that they can't interact with anyone outside their group unless they're fronting. I guess I wouldn't tie them together (well, probally co-fronters) because we're really free inside.
This could be rocking good fun.
(I live with weirdos.)

[rhymer-713.livejournal.com]

Welcome to my world. :-P Yeah. That's better. A biiig looong fronting stick they can all hang onto.

[krystale.livejournal.com]

Yea, we're all over lately.

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

uh well the only thing I like to do is play online games lol some people in past posts talked about like wearing badges that had a fronters name on it. oh! like you mean things that they can do! hmm. how about everyone has a phone receiver on the same line and has their conversations together that way? that's sorta what it's like when I'm fronting and there are others all around the front ^^; drives me nutty really lol
LeAnne

[krystale.livejournal.com]

You mean like when people whisper in your ear when you're out and trying to do something?

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

yeah sorta like that but like I'm getting used to it since I've been fronting here alot the past month or whatever. like Stephen likes to remind me to eat and stuff because I always forget to eat ^^; I don't know why. speaking of food I need to eat right now! lol :p
LeAnne

[krystale.livejournal.com]

Eppi wants me to tell you she plays Neopets. She used to play Maplestory, but it got harder and people there are all the drama.

[tej-agni.livejournal.com]

cool yeah I played puzzle pirates too. lately I play WoW and LotR online and I was play Galaxies awhile back those are fun. yeah I'm a gamer dork! lol :p blah this is my only gamer icon on this eljay. sucky oh well lol
LeAnne

[krystale.livejournal.com]

What are puzzle pirates?

[aquilawolf.livejournal.com]

I'm always trying to figure out how to let some singleton know what it is like. Fronting stick for a group of people... yea, I like that idea.

Mostly what I find though, is that people don't want to know. They want to just pretend, or force me to be one. I had to break off a relationship with someone because he was wearing the system out as he only wanted to relate with one of us (a brainy intellectual) so she kept everyone else pressed down and we all just about went insane once after spending five hours with this guy without being able to switch or be accepted. ("He scared us!" -the kids-)
Then when she told him she needed space to herself (so we could come out) he got all resentful.

I have infants and toddlers so with a group of singletons open to knowing what it was like, maybe some kids and babies could be mixed in the group and someone would have to take care of them while one had the fronting stick (and some of these kids are eager for the attention of outside people!!).

[spookshow-girl.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a fucked up relationship. We've had a similar problem with one of her exes. Glad to hear you left.

--Me

[aquilawolf.livejournal.com]

We're a lot happier now.

[spookshow-girl.livejournal.com]

Very good to hear. :)

--Me

[krystale.livejournal.com]

That's what occured to me last night, children I mean. I find most people don't want to know either, but I also don't feel the least bit inclined to list them as friends. The people I'd invite accept me, and most of them have hung out with Eppi and talked to many of us, although the bigs don't differenciate ourselves much.

Kids would be awesome because they'll get right into it, they really will drag the group around. Eppi's best friend (after Rob) is 12 and somewhat special needs, so I have no doubt her mother would bring her. Her mother took Eppi and Sophie (E's friend) out trick or treating together last year. (I tried not to think about what I looked like with her in charge.)

Your icon is cute.

[aquilawolf.livejournal.com]

The little ones in my system would so love something like that (trick or treating). They want to go to a petting farm and pet baby animals, but we don't know any outside adult that would go with us. It's hard to do that alone, always on the watch for looking too strange, and having adults shift to front to cover. Spoils the fun for the kids.

The icon is toy baby animals scanned! (The lambs nose got squashed a little bit)

[krystale.livejournal.com]

There's a lot of places Eppi wants to go that we can't. To seee Santa for instance. We may figure out a way some day.

[theyareme.livejournal.com]

Go with a friend and don't make any excuses for it. One adult going to see Santa or to a petting zoo might look weird, but two seems like friends reliving their childhood, or a couple on a cute date.

Or take a grandmother/grandfather or other elderly friend. Generally, the older you are the more you can get away with just about anything.

[aquilawolf.livejournal.com]

Wise advise!! It is amazing what a difference it makes when there are at least two people. And I once knew a lesbian couple (both over 50) that were able to get away with holding hands in public as one looked younger than her age and the other was maybe 15 years older. Everyone assumed they were relatives.

[lb-lee.livejournal.com]

We've always used the analogy of the ESPN Sports Center: one play on-screen, and everybody goes berserk talking and analyzing it. Oddly, we've never gotten the question of "what it's like." Everybody seems to focus more on, "how does your memory work?" "Who are you?" "Oh my god, what's with your voice?"

[krystale.livejournal.com]

Yea, that last one. Or people ask where my accent comes from.

[cold-ataraxy.livejournal.com]

We've gotten what's it like from a couple of people at our old school (where people noticed enough that it was either be considered a total freak and an oddball or tell people that we're multiple and still be a total freak and an oddball). Since although we're trauma based for a few splits, it's mainly natural, we always just kinda turned around and asked the question right back at them, "What's it like to be a singleton?"

But Mmmhm. Our few close friends can tell the majority of us apart.

[teh-kerry.livejournal.com]

Our favourite 'oh my god' is the 'Oh my god, what's wrong with you... you're sitting like a man!' Direct quote. We don't let the men front a lot, for obvious reasons, but it's hard to imagine what's so offensive about male body language.

[e-mily.livejournal.com]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

*dies*

As a (singleton) girl who is very non-gender specific, ahahaha. I know exactly what you mean with that comment. Not caused by the same reason, but definitely have gotten tons of the same reaction.

[rabbitsystem.livejournal.com]

I'd split them into two or three groups and get them to interact, with one or two fronters at a time. I might make them write down the conversation - thus only the fronter can speak to the world, because they have the pen, but their group can tell them what to say, and disagree, and interrupt. They might also that way begin to understand that sometimes you say something long after it was relevant, because you weren't fronting when you thught of it, or don't remember whether you said something out loud or not.
I might also get them to have a role-play in which there was a group and several singlets meeting for the first time, and the group must try and act like a singlet.

[krystale.livejournal.com]

I like that. :)