Unpredictably and at the wrong times seems right, not sure there was ever a right time. But after we got married we stopped having major changes every year and were instead having even more dramatic changes but only every 3 years or so.
We were up front about our multiplicity when we met our wife and we took her to meet our therapist (best I had ever had) who explained everything to her, but she wound up in total denial and we wound up quitting therapy because it was stressing her out so bad to have us come home from therapy a different person every week.
Our therapist found triggers to switch us and interview different alters but we don't remember a lot of that.
So there are definitely ways to do it, but we need to learn to do it for ourselves.
We had a wonderful change last year that is hard to describe. We were our absolute best we have ever been for about 3 months... But how it happened was so wierd, we asked a dragon to help us and the dragon celaned out our chakras and raised our kundalini in an eyeblink and we were totally transformed. We weren't sure if it was a 'kundalini awakening' or another change of personalities, but if we could just learn that trick we'd be doing very well. We finally decided it was an awakening simply because it was so different from our past expereinces, but we developed a new alter shortly after that so the issue remains in doubt.
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Re: Definitely painful and traumatic
Date: 2007-04-29 04:32 pm (UTC)We were up front about our multiplicity when we met our wife and we took her to meet our therapist (best I had ever had) who explained everything to her, but she wound up in total denial and we wound up quitting therapy because it was stressing her out so bad to have us come home from therapy a different person every week.
Our therapist found triggers to switch us and interview different alters but we don't remember a lot of that.
So there are definitely ways to do it, but we need to learn to do it for ourselves.
We had a wonderful change last year that is hard to describe. We were our absolute best we have ever been for about 3 months... But how it happened was so wierd, we asked a dragon to help us and the dragon celaned out our chakras and raised our kundalini in an eyeblink and we were totally transformed. We weren't sure if it was a 'kundalini awakening' or another change of personalities, but if we could just learn that trick we'd be doing very well. We finally decided it was an awakening simply because it was so different from our past expereinces, but we developed a new alter shortly after that so the issue remains in doubt.