Question

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Why is it that people will describe others in their system as parts, aspects or facets of themselves or of some greater overarching single self, but then go on to talk about how they don't like others in the group or are afraid of them or want to get rid of them?

Isn't that just basically saying you're fighting yourself, are afraid of yourself or want to get rid of yourself?

If you see yourself as being in a "parts/aspects of one" setup, every time you attribute any kind of trait or tendency-- good or bad-- to other members of the system, aren't you basically saying that you yourself possess that trait? I mean, it is entirely possible for a person to persecute themselves, but if you talk about conflicts with others in-house after saying your system works on that basis, why should I treat it or think of it any differently than a matter of self-persecution?

Comments

[catskillmarina.livejournal.com]

Yes to all of the questions....

...and all people whether singlet or multiple if they are sane
at all have some internal conflicts.

Some of US have internal conflicts and sometimes we disagree, but
we have learned not to persecute each other, EVER. If there is even
a hint of that, my wife/companion will stand up for the one who is
being persecuted. She tells me that head fights are BAD BAD BAD.

--- Constance