Yesterday

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

Yesturday was the second anniversary of our being married. It is amazing how well our marriage works, considering we're both multiple. It was great to see some old faces come out yesturday. These older faces were the people who founded the relationship we have with the_kaeru, and worked through many obstackles to achieve the goal of being together. I'm fortunate to have such a loving and caring system. With people who knew what they wanted so badly, they worked for almost three years to gain what we have now. And that the rest of us can reap the rewards of an amazing relationship between two multiple worlds.

Vice
The Play Pretty Collective

Comments

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

"It is amazing how well our marriage works, considering we're both multiple."

Not too amazing really! After sixteen years of experiencing and observing multiple / singlet relationships -- not a single one of which worked out -- and several multiple / multiple relationships which did, we're thinking it's possible that the latter tend to work out much better in the long run. (We know there's exceptions, this is just an idea we have)

So congratulations everybody! Long life and best happiness.

Us

So multiple/singlets don't usually work?

[nematoddity.livejournal.com]

Kind of like the other theory I've come with, that monogamous/polyamorous relationships don't usually work either.

On t'other hand, I recently celebrated thirteen years with my partner, and for at least five of those years, if not fully eleven, I was actively multiple.

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

thank you. really? i had no idea. I figured that because there were so many people it might have more going against it. fasinating though.

Tabby

[ksol1460.livejournal.com]

In our experience, if anything, it seems to help.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Yeah, from stories we've heard from others and our own experiences (one particularly unpleasant), we're inclined to agree that multiple/singlet relationships require a VERY understanding singlet if they're going to work out. Besides the whole polyamory issue, which people have already mentioned, the fact is that even if a singlet is really understanding, they have no true frame of reference for what living in a group, a shared body, is like, and a lot of them tend to fall back on misassumptions or even stereotypes.

But I'm not saying it couldn't ever work out. Just that, while we have some wonderful understanding singlet friends, I can't really see ourselves wanting to pursue a relationship with anyone but another multiple-- someone who shares our experience of reality. Granted, I have heard my share of stories about difficult relationships between multiples, but personally, I think most of these are due to one or both of the systems involved being dysfunctional/troubled, not because multiple/multiple relationships are intrinsically hard to work out. To be with someone who understands your reality because they experience it the same way is wonderful.


Anthea

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

yeah. I couldn't imagine being married to anyone else. and it really does help that we both understand what we go through, and what we've gone through in trying to make our relationship, and lives work. It also helps if someone is mad, they can go in and comeback when they've cooled down. :)

Cloe

[andrianna.livejournal.com]

Congrats!
I know how hard it is at times to have a relationship with another multiple (as I am currently in one). :)

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

the only difficulties I think we've had stem from the very big problem of someone coming out, and not wanting our wife to be our wife. but, generally its not as big a problem anymore. :)

Vice

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

Egad, We know how THAT goes. It's mostly Ray, but a few of the others have pulled stunts like that too. Either that or they simply don't admit to being involved in ANY way with Our SO, and go out looking for someone to play with on their own. Margaux is infamous for finding her own regardless of what the rest of Us think.

[pink-spot.livejournal.com]

Yeah, i know what thats like. I've done it a few times myself. since they weren't sactioned by the governing body I got punished severly. Several times. So, now, I just try to relax, and not worry about such things. I'm going to be starting a trip inside with a new friend, and lover. So, we'll just have to see how well it goes.

Friday

[larzmachine.livejournal.com]

Congratulations, brah.