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[grey-reverie.livejournal.com]

Which would you guys find easier admitting to being to a group of people you don't know too well... being multiple, or being bisexual?

Just wondering. 'Cause we're not ashamed in the slightest about either, and we're open about it. But for some reason it seems like other people are a little weirder when reacting to hearing we're a multi. ::shrugs::


<3 Luca

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[kyouketsusha.livejournal.com]

Sexuality, no contest.

[saturniakitty.livejournal.com]

It was absolutely a non-issue when I came out as bisexual, but I'm still afraid to be totally open about being a multiple. The former was MUCH easier than the latter.

[exsillium-nocte.livejournal.com]

Bi seems to be a lot more socially normal. That came out wrong, I think... But I mean, there are a lot more people out there who are bisxeual than there are people who are multiple. So people are more used to knowing someone is bi than they are that someone is multi. Also, generally, it's accepted (read as believed) that bisexuality is a lifestyle, whereas multiplicity is a disorder. Social stigma doth indeed suck.

[grey-reverie.livejournal.com]

I agree. It used to be that being homosexual was considered a disorder of sorts... mebbe some day multiplicity will be acknowledged as a lifestyle as well? That'd be nice, heh.

-Luca

[exsillium-nocte.livejournal.com]

Well, we could always step up and protest or whatnot... I mean, hell, just look at the presence we have on the web as is. If more people were aware there are such communities, perhaps we could build enough numbers to create some sort of thing in the real world and then start a movement... It's possible, right?

[our-menagerie.livejournal.com]

Except in Texas, they'd probably ban it...lol dont mind us we arent bitter ;)

[arcis.livejournal.com]

most people we're friends with know already about 'us' being bisexual *flips* no contest ^_~

- Oz

[ques-nova.livejournal.com]

Just about everyone knows about being bi and multiple and poly. I'm a very open person. The only people I won't intentionally tell about any of that is someone who could cause problems for me (such as a co-worker/boss or psychiatrist who may want to "fix")

[weirdiguess.livejournal.com]

Bisexuality is socially accepted even if people are kinda weird about it. Multiple, people are still assuming means you're crazy. There's no contest.

[arcis.livejournal.com]

or faking it to get attention *nods*

-Oz

[allusionist.livejournal.com]

Only in blue states!

Go to Texas, Tenessee, or other red states....

"I'm bi."
"FAGGOT!" *pulls out shotgun*

[our-menagerie.livejournal.com]

lol hadnt got this far, was just saying they'd probably ban a "multiple lifestyle" too here in Texas.

[exsillium-nocte.livejournal.com]

<.< Many of my friends are gay... And we're in Memphis, TN. If anything, most of the redneck population seems slightly scared of the gay population, rather than militant aboot it.

[grey-reverie.livejournal.com]

I grew up in a little town outside phoenix, AZ, and they used to be pretty militant about it. When some of the guys at my high school found out, they actually trailed us, and dragged me and my bf out of our car at a red light in broad daylight and beat the shit out of us.

I imagine coming out about being a multiple back then would've gotten us burned at the stake for being witches and preaching the idea that the sun really -doesn't- revolve around the earth. -_-;

<3 Luca

[bluegodjanus.livejournal.com]

I'd say bi. The multiple part is really complicated, and I don't want to explain it to most people.

[pengke.livejournal.com]

I like your icon. It reminds me of the time I was listening to a hockey game on the radio and the signal kept crossing with the religious station. Our goalie made the save then went to hell for it.

[thehumangame.livejournal.com]

Errrrr....

Multiple.

...We're sure about that. We're not sure about sexuality.

~j

[lion-azure.livejournal.com]

A lot of people know that I'm bi. Very few know that I'm more of an "us" than an "I". So yeah, admitting the former is somehow easier. Probably because of the reasons already stated by others - being multiple is still seen as omgcrazy!!!, whereas being bi is becoming more and more socially acceptable.

- the host

[our-menagerie.livejournal.com]

Honestly i think living in a more conservative place either is hard. i will tell people that i am lesbian though before i tell them im multiple. i have found i pretty much get just as negative a reaction to both around here though.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Talking about sexuality does depend a lot on where you live, yes. We're at least lucky enough to live in a place where people are fairly open about things like that. However, we're also paranoid about disclosing that we're multiple-- we see it as something that could come back potentially to bite us in the ass later on. I think our difficulty with reading body language would place us at risk-- we're never sure if someone's message is actually "yes, I really do believe and accept you" or "yes, I'll say I believe you if it will get you to shut up and get the hell away from me, crazy person." We've been taken in before by people who swore up and down that they absolutely didn't think we were crazy, and then it turned out they'd confided other things to our friends. So it's not entirely baseless paranoia, there.

[laurenthemself]

Sexuality all the way (although I'm apparently not really multiple because my headcompanions don't front).

The one exception is to my mother: she refuses to believe that I'm 'wired' to like anyone other that men, whereas she's accepted my 'friends' since I was very young.

[pthalo]

easier to admit sexual orientation. We used to label ourselves bi, then switched to lesbian for a while, which seemed more accurate, now we've mostly given up with trying to label ourselves. Mostly attracted to women, but keen on not shutting doors on anybody.

[shadowechoes.livejournal.com]

We frequently openly admit to strangers that we're bisexual. It's a lot easier. These days, there's more acceptance towards bisexuality and homosexuality. And even if it's not accepted, people know what it is. Admitting to being multiple is riskier since people can decide that you're insane and decide to have you committed to a hospital. People are a lot less likely to understand let alone accept it. There's more to lose if people know we're multiple.

~Jolie

[eruditeboredom.livejournal.com]

Same here. EVERYONE knows I'm bi. My parents know, and while they severely dislike it, they know there isn't shit they can do about ti. Only my close friends know that "I'm" a We. Had some friends a couple of years ago that I felt were good enough friends to tell. WRONG. Assholes. Oh well. Fuck 'em. My close friends now know, and they haven't given me any reason to believe they think any differently of me, other than to no freak if I start acting a bit off. Which rarely happens anyway, the frontrunners act like me (Windi, the core) in mixed company. The only person that even notices when we step up is our fiance, but that's because he's also a multiple. It's only noticeable to others if the shift was brought on by something. I get nervous in cars in the rain, we're talking white-knuckle, gripping the seat, staring straight ahead, flipped out. But, b/c of a nasty automobile accident involving 2 fatalities and myself nearly being one as well, I don't like unsafe car situations. So, someone else will step up. Happened a week ago, Cassius came out and my entire body relaxed. Bothered my friend at first, but b/c he didn't know what was going on. Amusingly, when he was informed of what was going on he relaxed. He's also a multiple, but he has very few others. I wish more of us were fortunate enough to be "crazy magnets" and attract other multiples.

[grey-reverie.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I lost a lot of people I thought were friends too when I came out, but c'est la vie. I was lucky when I moved to New Mexico, I have a couple multiple friends there, but alas, am bereft of them here in FL. Which, interestingly, is part of why I moved here, but the person I met in this community turned out to be a fake. Ah well.

<3 Luca