"Comming Out"

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I'm not honest with most people about my multiplicity, but I'm starting to come out. Right now I've been talking to strictly other multiples about it (multiples in my life).

This is something I want to be honest about..... but the problem I'm really having is trying to figure out how we can all be ourselves around people rather than the person people have learned that I am.
That's very difficult for me..... expecialy since the person everyone knows as US isn't who any of us are. What's more, we all have different preferences on everything.

I'm bisexual (leaning towards lesbian), I don't eat meat and I can't stand candy. I'm a little frustraited, but slightly boisterous.
Lala's straight and really prefers to kinda live on candy and soda, but she also eats meat. She doesn't say much but she's pretty cynical.
Sadeyl.... I really don't know if she even has a sexuality. She's a sweet, shy, artistic little vegan.

We're all very different, even though we have our similarities (duh, right?)...... and it's hard for us to be ourselves around the group of people we know because the change between us can be so drastic. We really don't know much of what to do.


I guess I just want advice about being able to be real and honest about this.... not having to hide it but still not freaking people out.
We don't want to hide it anymore --- this is too much part of me/us...... but I don't people to freak out, worry, or beleive that we're lying (or crazy).

I'm just a little confused.

Anamyse / X-posted

Comments

[thehumangame.livejournal.com]

Well, when I really care about someone, I'm willing to not push them. I'll reveal details s l o w l y over the course of years. Don't make them deal with more things when they're not used to the first things yet, etc. Also, paradoxically, sometimes you have to be secure enough not to need acceptance in order to get it. What I mean is, you have to not get discouraged by initial bad or neutral reactions. They don't really mean people won't accept it in the long term, once they've had a year or more to get used to it. Patience is a virtue.

Also, it's generally better just to mention multiplicity matter-of-factly, in the middle of other topics, instead of making a big production of I'm Coming Out Here's My Secret Please Accept Me. Most of my offline friends are on LiveJournal too so that made it really easy to just present it in a non-threatening manner at first, where they didn't have to deal with it if they didn't want to. I didn't expect them to respond to any of it but I knew it'd help them get used to it.

~j