Well, I just joined so.....first I'd like to say hello.
Secondly I would like to pose a question:
Has anyone else experienced a death of one of the members of a system? I don't mean a leaving or fading away I mean an actual nasty horrific death ending in the said person no longer existing. The said person was causing a lot of trouble at the time so we decided to basically put her on "lock-down" and another member of the system threatened her with death if she tried to cause trouble again....well, she did at which point the person that threatened her subjected her to a slow and agonizing death. I would also like to point out that while at the moment none of use are just "fragments" or single minded things without any depth whatsoever but the deceased one would have to be the closest any of us got. Yes, she did have slight depth but that could have been acted out. But now I seem to be rambling. I'd like to hear if anyone else has had a similar exsperience. And I'd also be glad to answer any questions on my situation as well.
- Samara(formaly the Muse)
Secondly I would like to pose a question:
Has anyone else experienced a death of one of the members of a system? I don't mean a leaving or fading away I mean an actual nasty horrific death ending in the said person no longer existing. The said person was causing a lot of trouble at the time so we decided to basically put her on "lock-down" and another member of the system threatened her with death if she tried to cause trouble again....well, she did at which point the person that threatened her subjected her to a slow and agonizing death. I would also like to point out that while at the moment none of use are just "fragments" or single minded things without any depth whatsoever but the deceased one would have to be the closest any of us got. Yes, she did have slight depth but that could have been acted out. But now I seem to be rambling. I'd like to hear if anyone else has had a similar exsperience. And I'd also be glad to answer any questions on my situation as well.
- Samara(formaly the Muse)
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Date: 2006-05-30 03:45 pm (UTC)I don't think we've all even recovered yet. it's one of those slow processes, yeah?
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Date: 2006-05-30 04:06 pm (UTC)I think you will find this is true also of a lot of non-gateway systems. In some groups we have known, people may die and then come back to life months or even years later.
What are you going to do about the person who killed her? Is it ethical in your group to kill those who seem to be less of a person than the others? I ask out of curiosity, every group is different.
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Date: 2006-05-31 12:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-31 12:44 pm (UTC)-Samara(formally the muse)
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Date: 2006-06-01 02:03 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-01 02:49 am (UTC)-Samara(formally the muse)
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Date: 2006-06-01 02:51 am (UTC)-Lina
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Date: 2006-05-30 05:31 pm (UTC)So how long has it been? I would give it a while, you may find that what seems like 'death' is just a temporary absence. If not, then those of you in mourning have our condolences (and some of our more callous congratulations on succeeding where we've failed so many times).
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Date: 2006-05-31 12:39 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-30 08:27 pm (UTC)There was also a girl who had been here since the beginning. Shelly died after reading a book about an "alter who had died". We still dont know why and tried for 3 years to stop her death but she just kept getting sicker and sicker and eventually just died.
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Date: 2006-05-30 10:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-30 10:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-30 10:56 pm (UTC)~Selene/kangetsuhime
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Date: 2006-05-30 10:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-31 02:30 am (UTC)The one who shot her is still here, but has calmed substantially.
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Date: 2006-05-31 04:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-01 02:08 am (UTC)Hence, killing people because we didn't like them has never been a really viable option for us. We have to find other ways to work it out. What we find is that if they're a person, they generally have reasons for doing things or for trying to control others in the system in destructive ways-- someone who seems to have "no reason, she's just evil" for being disruptive is in our experience more likely to be something like someone trying to get rid of an aspect of themselves they don't like by personifying it as another self. (or, in one instance in here, someone artificially created by another system member because we though we had to have more conflict than we did in order to be 'real')
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Date: 2006-06-01 02:37 am (UTC)-Samara(formally the muse)
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Date: 2006-06-01 09:17 am (UTC)So it was sort of roleplaying the issue in a sense? I think... there's a time and a place for appropriately doing things like that, but the important thing is to keep in mind that that's what you're doing (we've seen some people get very messed-up by losing track of the distinction between what was them 'acting out' certain traits and what the system had originally been like).
We had a group of people whom we lost track of about eight years ago and presumed dead. We actually ended up finding all of them, eventually, but they actually... were very different from how we had seen them when we left. I think some of that was due to the frontrunners sort of using them to play out various issues of ours, and putting certain 'aspects,' as you call them, onto them, which they didn't naturally have, or not so prominently. When all of that kind of fell off them, we were able to see more clearly what they had originally been.
Although we see ourselves as a gateway system, there is a limited extent to which we seem to be capable of passing traits between one another, when in this body, at least. I suppose one of us might superficially be viewed as 'bad' by others because one of the things he took (voluntarily) was a trait of vengefulness; but he's actually worked out some decently constructive ways of handling it (not that it went away, but he deals with it in ways that keep it in-house and doesn't affect the body or our relationships). So in some cases it can be a question of finding the person who can handle a trait that might have been causing trouble for someone else.
Anthea/TGM
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Date: 2006-06-01 03:48 pm (UTC)-Samara(formally the muse)