Thinking about 'coming out'

[stealthdragon.livejournal.com]

Someone over in asperger recently commented that no-one should have to hide what they are, whatever that happens to be. We thought, "if only it were that easy".

This morning, while lying in bed, we realised that it really doesn't have to be any harder than that. We could just, y'know, tell people.

And we realised that we truly want to. We're tired of keeping up the mask to all but one or two of our closest friends.

We'll be telling our boyfriend first. We do, as they say, "fear rejection" - more from him than the rest of our friends, because we have more to lose. Our friends are an accepting bunch, though. Soon we'll see how accepting.

Perhaps we'll lose our nerve. Perhaps this thought will vanish into the abyss of memory. But then, perhaps not.

We're set to visit our boyfriend in the beginning of June. We'll see how it goes.

Comments

[linacrow.livejournal.com]

My dad's known for a while, he doesn't really agree with it in terms of how "safe" it is but if I think it works he's not going to contradict me unless he sees something happen that he feels like he needs to warn me about(bad thing is a lot of the time he'll attribute some problems I have to being multiple when it had nothing to do with the situation).
A few friends know but not in a big "comming out" way. It was just offhandedly talked about(same way they found out about me being a pagan, go figure) and they haven't really questioned it at all and took it in a "that's how it is way" instead of a "what's wrong, we need to fix it way". And my boyfriend knows....but he's kinda multiple too so that works out well. I don't think I have a good picture of how it is to be seen as "different" or something. I basically live in a very un-biblebelt niche of the biblebelt.
I wouldn't dare tell my mom....she was threatening to send me to a psychward for being "uncooperative" meaning saying I wasn't depressed when she told me I was depressed.

I think the key is to make sure you have a pretty good relationship with the person in question, which may mean telling one parent and not the other or just not telling them at all.