newbie with a question

[ex-schrodin.livejournal.com]

Um, hi. I just joined the community, so...hi. Anyway, I have a question, its probably kind of a wierd question and I'd like to know if anybody has had the same problem as me, or if anyone has any advice for me.

The other dominant member of the system I'm in refuses to believe that she is a multiple. She continually rationalizes everything in regards to it away, like, 'everyone has conversations with themseleves', 'I was just distracted and out of it when such and such' and 'just because my personality is different at times doesn't mean I have multiple personalities'. Compelling arguments, I suppose, yet I clearly feel like a separate entity. I don't know what I'm trying to ask. :(

Comments

[thehumangame.livejournal.com]

show her this post?

when i showed him that i could talk about myself like i was real, over his objections, he accepted i was.

[sethrenn.livejournal.com]

Best way to convince her? Stay around. The person in our system who did that finally relented because it was pretty obvious that no one could consciously keep up the sustained presence of 'imaginary friends' for that long, or for them to change in ways that she hadn't anticipated or predicted.

[fayanora.livejournal.com]

Back when I thought I might be a multiple (before I found out the more odd truth of being a mid-continuum (http://fayanora.23ae.com/midcontinuum.htm), Alexander Antonin was a strong opponent of the theory of our being a multiple. His observations and speculations were very keen. Several things changed his mind, eventually. My ability to be in a rage about one thing while being simultaneously happy about something completely different (specifically, the incident was that Alex was in a rage about the traffic and Molly was paying no heed to the traffic but simply happily singing along to the radio) was one major factor that converted him. The second was my constant fascination with multiplicity even before we knew much about it. Then the third was the re-discovery of my subjective inner world that I had once enjoyed as a child. Along with other minor arguments.

[luwana.livejournal.com]

Ditto to stick around. Sometimes it takes time for people to deal with it.

[wylddelirium.livejournal.com]

I'm going to go in a strange direction, and you're welcome to follow, run away, argue, or just go have a think.

For me, the journey took a name, and that name was "Whatever makes your world happy and easier to understand." I identify as multiple/otherkin because that's the best terminology I have been able to find that explains what goes on inside my head. I honestly don't care if other people believe me or not, including another member of my system who likes to make the rest of us think we're just nutballs. That's okay - if it doesn't work for her, then it doesn't, and I'm not going to force anything upon her as much as I wouldn't try to force someone else in my life to believe that I am part angel.

But for me, there was a peace and understanding that came to my life when I began to accept these explanations for the wierdness in my head. And it's also the easiest words I found to explain how I felt and what I was experiencing.

I don't feel that you necessarily need to "prove" to her that you're right. Treat her as though she were her own person, with her own autonomy, and the right to think and believe what she wishes. Maybe as time progresses it will become clearer to her, or she will "see" what you see, or maybe she will continue to be obstinate in her views.

[firewheelvortex.livejournal.com]

WEll, being kicked in the medulla repeatedly with stilletto heels almost worked with me.

What did work was having my kinesthetic sense overridden by my dear Invisible Twin Sister, Maude.

When you have boy parts...

DAMN, that zuchinni was cold!